adminBy Swag Mama
Have you ever noticed how some people seem to just get everyone to do things for them? Do you envy your sibling for the appearing to be your parents’ favourite?Or maybe it is a classmate that you just hate for being every teacher’s pet. Some people just seem to be popular with friends, family, school mates and even strangers. And no one seems to like you much except your friends, sometimes. What is wrong with you? Is it that you are too ugly, too poor, too geeky or too whatever?
Most probably not. The answer could lie in your social skills. Are you a people person? What does that mean?
A lot of teens are rude without even realizing it. This week let us take a bit of time to just reinforce or maybe learn a few manners.
1. Greet people, and do it with a smile. I am not just talking about teachers, parents and other adults, but your friends, classmates and everyone else.
A smile makes people want to smile back at you, and more importantly, they will become more willing to listen to you, and if need be assist you, because you have created a happy feeling all around.
2. Speak up and clearly. “Nah”, “Whatever”, “Uhmm” and other such words might work with your friends who understand your teen language but they are not good enough for talking to grown-ups, prefects and in other formal situations. There you need to say, “Yes ma’am, no sir” and so forth.
3. Focus on the conversation. A lot of teens have the habit of playing with their phones, looking down or sideways when talking to someone that they think is boring. Others do not even bother to take off their headphones.
This is very rude and irritating to the person talking to you. So just look straight at them to show that you are paying attention, even if they are being boring.
4. Please and May. Learn to use those two little words and you will find how much easier it is to get people in your corner. Forget about the phrase “I want” when you are asking for a favour. Do not demand.
5. Stop slouching. May teens look like they have no bones in their skeletons as they stand with their shoulders drooping or sit in a sprawl.
Not only does it make you look scruffy even when you are well-dressed, it makes people think you are lazy and rude. So sit up and stand
with your head held high, especially when you are talking to someone so that you look attentive, smart and successful.
Try those few tricks over the next couple of weeks and watch all the grown-ups and even fellow teens eat out of your hand.
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