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Eish, bafwethu! Love can make people do unbelievable things. Sometimes it makes you write poems. Other times it makes you lose sleep. Then there are days like today when it makes you fall for your best friend’s father! Yoh! Let’s open today’s overflowing Bra Binzy mailbag.
I’M THE ‘SLUT’ MY BEST FRIEND IS HUNTING!
Dear Bra Binzy
I’m a 22-year-old university student. During the last semester break, my rich friend invited me to spend the holidays at her parents’ home. That’s where I met her 62-year-old father.
We fell in love.
I know it sounds wrong, but I genuinely love him. He has taken over paying my university fees because my parents were struggling.
He also paid off my family’s mortgage and settled my father’s medical debt that had even reached the courts. This all happened within six months. Now he wants to buy me a car.
He’s the most caring and sensitive man I have ever dated.
My family doesn’t know where all this money is coming from. My mother is very traditional and I think she’d faint if she discovered the truth.
The biggest problem is my friend. She recently told me her father is having an affair with some “bimbo”.
She says he has become happier than ever and has now asked her mother for a divorce.
She begged me to help her expose the woman destroying their family.
She has no idea that woman is me.
How do I keep the man I love without losing my friend? And how do I tell my mother?
— Confused Student
Bra Binzy replies:
Sisi… sisi… haa!
You haven’t just entered hot water. You’re swimming in boiling soup.
Let’s start with one fact. This man is still somebody’s husband. That cannot be ignored. Adults can choose who they love, regardless of age, but marriage changes the picture completely.
You describe him as generous and caring, and maybe he genuinely is. But generosity doesn’t cancel betrayal.
Paying fees, clearing debts and buying cars cannot erase the pain his family is going through.
Your biggest problem isn’t your mother.
It isn’t even the age gap.
It’s that every day your friend cries on your shoulder while unknowingly talking to the very woman she’s trying to find. That guilt will eventually eat you alive.
You also need to ask yourself difficult questions. If this man had no mansion, no money, no ability to rescue your family financially, would you still have fallen so deeply in love?
Only you know that answer.
If he truly intends to leave his marriage, let him end it honestly before building another relationship. Secrets never make strong foundations.
As for your mother, don’t sugar-coat the truth. She may be shocked, but painful honesty is always better than beautiful lies.
Remember, my sister, luxury can buy comfort, but it cannot buy peace of mind.
She has become much more protective of her phone
Dear Bra Binzy
My wife has started hiding her phone like it’s a state secret. She even takes it into the bathroom. Last week I accidentally answered a WhatsApp call on her phone. The caller immediately hung up and later sent a message saying, “I miss you already.”
When I confronted her, she accused me of invading her privacy.
Should I investigate or mind my own business?
— Suspicious Husband
Bra Binzy replies:
My man… my man… eish!
When someone suddenly guards a phone like it’s carrying Zimbabwe’s gold reserves, questions will naturally come.
But don’t become a private detective overnight. Following people, installing spy apps or chasing cars around town usually creates more drama than answers.
Sit your wife down when both of you are calm. Tell her exactly what you saw and how it made you feel. Listen to her explanation before passing judgment.
Trust is like a mirror. Once cracked, you can glue it together, but you’ll always see where it broke.
She rejected my marriage proposal
Dear Bra Binzy
I’m 29 and unemployed. My girlfriend says she loves me but refuses my marriage proposal because I don’t have a stable job.
She says she’ll wait until I can provide properly.
Should I leave her because she doesn’t believe in me?
— Heartbroken in Hwange
Bra Binzy replies:
Eish, mfowethu!
Not every woman who says “not yet” is saying “never.”
Marriage is built on love, yes, but also on planning. Your girlfriend may simply want both of you to start your journey on stronger ground.
Instead of feeling insulted, use her words as fuel.
Keep looking for work. Learn new skills. Start that small hustle you’ve been postponing.
If she supports you through the struggle and remains faithful while you’re building yourself, don’t throw away a good woman because she asked for stability.
But if she only appears when your wallet gets fat, that’s another story altogether.
Love should see your potential, not just your payslip.
That’s all for this week, good people.
Remember, whether you’re chasing love, running from it or hiding from your in-laws, the truth always catches up before sunset.
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