adminDoes everyone go through stress? Well, Yes! The only difference is how different people cope with unexpected circumstances that could be stressful.
It is very important that one defines a way of dealing with stress when it creeps into their life because it is inevitable.
Those that are prepared to deal with stress usually find it easy to deal with even the most unfortunate of situations while those unprepared can be simply ticked off by simpler and less complicated situations.
How we handle unexpected situations and stress determines if we are broken by situations or if we live to see another day. It all goes down to how individuals are equipped to deal with stress as and when it arrives.
Most people are of the opinion that younger people are immune to stress. That is a myth and stereotype that is, in fact, wrong and makes it even the more difficult for younger people to realise when they are under stress. Because they are not expected to have stress, young people often find it hard to deal with it and the effects are often disastrous.
It is important to let young people know that they too will encounter difficult situations in life and they need to know how to deal with it instead of feigning not too realise its toll on their life.
Stress is encountered at different levels and magnitudes.
What determines whether a person bulks or not is not the size of the problem causing the stress.
It is the means and measures they employ to deal with the stress in their life.
Here are three ways and means to deal with stress.
Know what you CANNOT control
The reason why most people end up stressed is because they are busy trying over and over again to have control over things and situations that they cannot control.
People need to know what they CANNOT control and be at peace with it.
The truth is no matter how good and powerful you are there are always things that you cannot control.
Learn this as a cardinal rule in life: You cannot control people.
People are strong-willed creatures and they will ward off any attempt to exert control over them.
Avoid trying to control situations beyond you, you only end up stressed.
Control and Develop Your Mind
Most people are busy building and developing external things which really do not matter after all.
A man, rich in his mind, can always be rich so many more times again after all his possessions are taken away from him.
The reason is because they have developed their mind and they know how to make it work for them instead of against them.
Those who have mastered control of their mind and developed their mind cannot be brought down by external stimuli.
You can strip them off positions, but not their dignity, you can leave them but they will never feel worthless, you can look down upon them but they will never feel inferior.
The secret is they have developed their mind and they can control it.
Learn from the biographies of other established people, read and invest on material that develops your mind, and you will surely be able to deal with stress when it comes.
Develop Inner Peace
While most people try to find comfort in positions, influence and riches, they neglect one important thing in life: Inner peace.
There are many types of reality about you, the reality that people know and the reality that you know.
Most people are masters of creating an apparition of their reality that most people know which is different from the reality they know.
The mistake they make is to make the reality that most people know better and more beautiful than the actual reality.
The problem is that you always live under the stress that one day you will be found out, that one day the truth shall be known and you won’t be able to stand on that day.
When you make decisions make decisions that you can live with, even in your private life. Never do things to please others while tearing down your very soul.
Learn that whenever there is no inner peace stress is present. If you constantly seek for inner peace, stress becomes a thing of the past.
Deal with stress! Don’t ignore it, else it will destroy your life.
Till next week guys, God bless you all.
Ciao…
The writer is a motivational teacher.
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