Online Reporter
Laina Makuzha
LOVE by DESIGN
As we continue to celebrate women this month, in love and relationships, as in all areas of life, let us flip the script and dive into the minds of men.
After you have faced the truth and made your decision to move ahead without regrets of past mistakes — as we discussed in previous weeks — you will want to ensure in your moving forward, you understand the dating landscape and have a clear goal, so that haungoite kuwira into the next available relationship.
Wisdom must still prevail.
Many reach out saying pane pamwe pasingade wasting of time, and they just want to know outright, the tell tale signs that a man loves them enough to marry.
So for the reader whose goal is marriage, let us explore some insights and exchange notes. What makes a man decide to commit? How can a woman know if he is serious? What is it that he even looks for?
The truth is, men often struggle (I think) to articulate their feelings, but actions speak louder than words as the adage goes.
Let us explore some of the signs that serious men portray, shall we?
He’s all in
Future plans and all: He includes you in his long-term goals, talks about future vacations, and introduces you to his inner circle.
Consistency: He prioritises you, shows up when he says he will, and follows through on commitments.
Vulnerability: He opens up about his fears, dreams, and weaknesses, trusting you with his true self.
He is invested
Quality Time: He dedicates quality time to understand you, your passions, and interests. Oh yes!
Support system: He wants you to meet his friends and family, and is interested in yours.
Compromise: He finds common ground, listens actively, and is willing to adapt.
He is actually serious,you can count on him
Communication: He initiates meaningful conversations, shares his thoughts, and listens attentively.
Emotional intelligence: He recognises and respects your emotions, validating your feelings.
Accountability: He takes responsibility for his actions, apologises sincerely, and makes amends.
Now, what does a man look for in a woman to marry? Zvinoda vachitiudza vega the partner they desire. (Look out for my discussion on this, on the Love Unscripted podcast on www.heraldonline.co.zw).
In my research I picked these few pointers that stood out for me:
Respect: Someone who treats herself, him and others with respect
Confidence and appeal: A woman who looks good ie takes good care of herself with what she has. A woman who knows herself, her worth, and is not afraid to speak her mind (with love of course).
Independence: Someone with her own interests, passions, and goals, who is not overly dependent on him or clingy.
Kindness: A compassionate heart, empathy, and genuine care for others.
Authenticity: A woman who is unapologetically herself, without pretences or trying to be someone she is not.
Growth mindset: Someone open to learning, growing, and evolving together.
Considerate, appreciative of his efforts: Someone who appreciates and does not nag
Tips for women
Be yourself: Authenticity is key. Do not try to be someone you are not on it will come back to bite you.
Communicate openly: Share your thoughts,your beliefs, feelings, and desires.
Observe actions: Pay attention to his actions, not just words.
Set boundaries: Establish clear expectations and respect your own worth. Zviri nani munhu agare aziva where you stand.
Support his growth: Encourage his passions and celebrate his successes.
Ultimately, when you find someone who values and respects you, cherish them.
We wont be able to exhaust this topic in one go, but a man who is serious about you will show you through his actions, words, and commitment.
Look for consistency, vulnerability, and genuine interest. As a woman, be kind, prioritise self-love while loving others. Exude confidence, and authenticity.
I would love to hear from you on this,whether single or married, I know you know something that can help someone.
Lets keep the conversation going if the topic resonates with you and you want to share your thoughts and experiences.
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