How to deal with one-minute men

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THE adult game is not a race where the first one to finish is a winner, but itaï¿½ï¿½s the opposite. Hey Iaï¿½ï¿½m talking of one-minute men!!!

It is so frustrating, but one has to understand that this problem affects a number of men and for the record, my sister if you were contemplating dumping your man for that, just hold on and work on improving your sex life.

I know this is one topic which is not easy to discuss despite the two of you being aware of the problem at hand. As a woman, I know that you will be afraid to initiate the issue as he might get angry and shift the blame to you saying you are definitely comparing him to someone else.

Anyway, you have to understand men and their ego as they all believe that they are the best in between the sheets, even if (women) are aware that for some . . . they still need to go for lessons.

Anyway, if you have been aï¿½?blessedaï¿½? with a one-minute man and have already vowed that till death, you will forever be together then help each other in enjoying the adult game.

I know most women make the mistake of trying to convince themselves that sex is nothing as they love each other, but no thataï¿½ï¿½s deadly because a relationship without it is dead and after-all, it is a NEED not a WANT.

You should have more time on foreplay and enjoy each other. Do not lie like a log as that will force him to get inside you quick and finish before you have a feel of it.

At least enjoy yourselves without limitations and a blow job will make it even better. With a one-minute man it is advisable for your man to make you come during foreplay so that by the time he penetrates and comes, you will also have been satisfied.

Remember, within the adult game both of you should be satisfied at the end! Itaï¿½ï¿½s all about complementing each otheraï¿½ï¿½s efforts.

The most viable trick is to understand each otheraï¿½ï¿½s bodies, feelings, breathing pace and muscle tension. All these can be a link as to how far your partner is to the big O. With that in mind sisters letaï¿½ï¿½s not skirt major issues here, we all know thatAï¿½ fifty percent of a relationship is love and the other 50% is sex, so if heaï¿½ï¿½s only lasting sixty seconds, itaï¿½ï¿½s not gonna work.

A man should always have enough discipline to control his orgasm. Thereaï¿½ï¿½s no way you can please her if as soon as you get in, youaï¿½ï¿½re climaxing all over the place. That means you donaï¿½ï¿½t have enough respect or love to wait for her. He needs to jerk off and get that first one out of the way so we can have fun for the second round.

Usually what starts the blast is that the man gives good head and by the time he puts it in, heaï¿½ï¿½s so ready to blast off and it takes away from the sex. So even if he goes down on you really, really good, maybe he needs to blast off while heaï¿½ï¿½s giving the head, let it get hard again and work it out. After all most first rounds of the bedroom game are lousy and straight to the point.

Like aforementioned as a sister you have to feel when a man is about to come,Aï¿½ if he starts tightening up or acting like heaï¿½ï¿½s about to have an exorcism, be in charge, back up and slow it down. I take it you are not having sexual relations with strangers, you should know when heaï¿½ï¿½s about to blast off. Tell him to talk to you so you can say aï¿½?Okay go aheadaï¿½? or aï¿½?Hold on, wait for me.aï¿½?

But for a one-minute man, once they get behind you itaï¿½ï¿½s a wrap. If youaï¿½ï¿½ve already got yours then let him go to the back and be like aï¿½?Okay baby, just have fun.aï¿½? You can be roughed up, swinging, whatever, but once he gets to the back itaï¿½ï¿½s over. So women, get on top, play with yourself, bust when you want to bust, and then let him get to the back. But if for some stupid reason you really donaï¿½ï¿½t care, let him lay there and aï¿½?cumaï¿½? all over himself. Enjoy.

I hope this comes in handy on how to deal with such one-minute lapses. Try by all means to encourage your partner to work it out as much as possible, to improve. Above all the secret is to talk things out, be patient, and be resilient until you reach the desired bedroom goal.

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