How to get a guy to propose

Antie Charity
SO this week I was asked a very interesting question about how you can get a guy to propose, like I always say I am no expert but because I have been around for some time and I have had a run with some situations I just think I know some of these things. I honestly think you cannot be in a relationship for too long without moving on to the next step. Sure he is nice, sure, he is funny, sure, he is handsome and the chemistry is great but if you and your guy do not want the same type of relationship, is that a deal breaker? Is a break-up in order over this? My long and short answer is “yes!” Why?

Because any time you are with a guy who wants a different type of relationship, you are on the road to regret and heartbreak. You end up wasting precious months (or years) in a situation that was never going anywhere from day one.

You end up feeling hurt, sad and disappointed, even though the signs were there the entire time and you chose to ignore and make excuses seeing as most women are good at making excuses. So, if a committed relationship is your ultimate goal and you find yourself chasing a road that leads nowhere then it is time to hit the road.

So, you have been in an exclusive relationship for a long time (maybe even a few years), I know some couples are entirely okay with this. If the guy you love has no interest in marriage, and does want to spend his life with you, there are many things that can help you decide if you should stay or end it.

I mean whether you want to have children and raise them in a traditional (married) household or you have a deep desire to walk down the aisle in a white dress and experience marriage and all that comes with it. It’s okay if you decide that being with him is more important than the official “I do” commitment but if it’s what he wants and not what you want then you might have a little problem right there. However, if you really want to get married, don’t let him talk you out of that dream.

Marriage might be “just a piece of paper” to him, but, in truth, it does represent a deeper level of commitment both people are more invested and, when sticky situations come up, there is more incentive to work things out.

If you think the relationship is starting to get serious then congratulations, you have finally progressed from dating to being exclusive. Great, but continue watching what he says and does, if he tells you what you want to hear to keep you around, yet his actions do not back up his promises, have the courage to see things for what they are. Do not make excuses for him (he’s got a full schedule because he is working so much and does not have time to call me) girl if he wants to talk to you he will make an effort to call even if he is in a war zone dodging bullets. So do not pursue him either when you do not hear from him.

If a guy is really into you, you will hear from him no matter what is going on in his life. If he tells you he isn’t looking for a commitment please believe him! Stop hoping he will change his mind once he realises how wonderful you are, you should never bend over backwards or compromise who you are trying to make him to like you more.
I know it’s hard to detach yourself from a guy you really like, but it’s far easier when you have not invested a ton of time and effort into a connection that’s going nowhere. Leave this relationship now and free your energy up to meet a guy who genuinely wants what you want and has the same beliefs and values as you. Then there are those sisters of mine out there who are on an off and on relationship please run as fast as you can we all have been there those do not lead anywhere all you ever say is I hope he is changed this time well newsflash if he did not change the last time what will make him change this time around? I know these on-again, off-again relationships are both fun and deeply frustrating, which is why most of them do not end in commitment or marriage they just end as a matter of fact they vanish.

Stop thinking you are an exception because your scenario is different. You will just waste even more of your precious time and get even more frustrated and bitter. If your on-and off guy contacts you and wants to get together, politely decline, even if you do not have other plans. You might wonder, “What’s the harm?”

Well, attracting the love you really want requires clarity in your thoughts, behaviours and actions. So when you send mixed signals to the Universe, higher power or God, you find yourself in the type of relationships you do not really want over and over again. So my answer to how you can get a guy to propose is make sure you are on the same mission, but I could be wrong so let’s get talking email [email protected].