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Laina Makuzha
LOVE by DESIGN
As the battle against Gender-Based Violence (GBV) rages on, it is essential to shed light on a type of abuse that often goes unnoticed, yet has devastating effects on individuals, relationships, and marriages: emotional abuse.
Emotional abuse can be subtle, yet leave victims feeling trapped, powerless, and alone. It can manifest in various ways, making it challenging to recognise, especially for those deeply invested in the relationship.
However, it is crucial to acknowledge that emotional abuse is never acceptable and that help is available.
Emotional abuse can take many forms, with tell-tale signs that include:
Dismissing or minimising feelings, needs, or boundaries — Isolation from friends, family, or social activities.
Threats, intimidation, or aggressive behaviour
Constant criticism, belittling, or humiliation
Emotional blackmail, guilt-tripping, or manipulation
Gaslighting, denying, or distorting reality
Control over finances, movements, or decisions. If you find yourself constantly walking on eggshells, feeling anxious, depressed, or uncertain about your relationship, it may be time to take a step back and assess whether you are experiencing emotional abuse.
Concern Worldwide, an organisation that aims to reduce suffering, states that one out of every three women will experience at least one type of gender-based violence in her lifetime.
Verbal abuse, threats of harm, manipulation, and mind games, and isolating a woman or girl from family, friends, school, or work are all forms of psychological and emotional abuse.
From a Christian perspective, believers are called to love and respect one another, just as God loves and respects us (Ephesians 5:33, 1 Peter 3:7).
Emotional abuse has no place in a relationship built on mutual love, respect, and trust.
When we experience emotional abuse, it can be helpful to remember that we are children of God, loved and valued by Him, and that we deserve to be treated with love, kindness, and respect. The Bible encourages us to bear one another’s burdens and to support those who are struggling (Galatians 6:2).
If you are experiencing emotional abuse, do not be afraid to reach out for help and support.
Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or spiritual leader, or seek professional counselling.
Breaking free from an emotionally abusive relationship requires courage, support, and a willingness to prioritise your well-being.
Here are some tips to help you overcome:
Recognize the abuse: Acknowledge the signs of emotional abuse and accept that it is not your fault.
Seek support: Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a therapist who can provide emotional support and guidance.
Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries and communicate your needs and expectations to your partner.
Prioritise self-care: Engage in activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies.
Create a safety plan: Develop a plan for leaving the relationship safely, including having a support network, a safe place to stay, and access to financial resources. If you see yourself as someone who may be emotionally abusing your partner, recognising it and acknowledging it is a great start.
It is then essential to follow through with some action, take responsibility for your actions, and genuinely seek help.
Ultimately, it is crucial to note that emotional abuse can have a profound impact on a person’s mental health, self-esteem, and overall well-being.
However, it is equally essential to remember that you are not alone, and help is available.
If you or someone you know has experienced emotional or any abuse, please reach out for support.
Your voice matters, and your story can inspire and uplift others.
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