It’s not pornography

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I cannot believe that he asked us to do pornography, I am so shocked.” 

Pornography?

This was uttered at one girls’ talk and the girls were so eager to get to know what happened to their friend. After giving her an opportunity to narrate everything that had happened in between the sheets with her husband, they laughed their lungs out as she was referring to sucking each other’s privates as pornography.

Definitely she is not the only one against foreplay, fun and creativity in the bedroom. There are women who want to stick to the traditional way of doing sex and anything fun and exciting is called pornography. It is high time each and every woman becomes eager to do her own “pornography”. 

Have fun and enjoy

When you are in your bedroom with your man, you do not need to be apologetic for anything. Forget about all your troubles and have those memorable moments which leave both of you sexually satisfied. The reason most people nowadays are having extra marital affairs is because they get better sex outside. They discover that they are not judged for the sex positions and all the activity they want. It becomes a wild game and this is the same thing which must happen with married people. There is no such thing as pornography, it’s just the adult game gone wild.

Already things are tight out there, so the least thing one can want is boring sex. So try and give your partner a mind blowing game which will make him take a break from all troubles. You know some people are glowing not because they are financially stable, but because their sex life is awesome. Always be eager to take your sex life to the next level. If you stick to the same level, then you’ve got a serious problem.

Be adventurous in the bedroom

If you have always gotten it on horizontally, it’s time to think vertical. Standing sex is a huge rush that will make you feel like you are the goddess of sex and your partner will agree. It does not only work in movies. Lean against a wall, or even better, put one foot up on a comfortable chair for balance. It’s not pornography, but taking it to another level.

At times you have to go oral. Find out the miracle of Halls sweets and give him a mind blowing experience. You should always invent new things to try in bed to spice up your sex life. Here are some of the exciting things to take your romance to the next level and it’s not pornography.

Couples are always seeking new, dirtiest ways to widen their horizon in the bedroom, especially if they have been together for quite some time. Everyone needs a little inspiration if things in the bedroom have become a routine. You may find the thrill of having sex with your partner gone. This can ruin your relationship even if you love each other. It is normal for men to try new exciting things in bed and as a woman you have to be open for change. Therefore, you can spice up your bedroom affairs by trying new, wild and dirty things. These dirty things can be a life-changing opportunity for you.

Most couples have sex in the bedroom all the time. Sex is not restricted to the bedroom only. Therefore, you can have it anywhere as long as it is convenient. The urgency of having sex can bring a thrill to a person. However, having to wait until you get to the bedroom can make the fun disappear. For a change, why not try to have sex with your spouse in the nearest place that is convenient for both of you. This can be wild and fun, especially if you are used to having sex in the same place.

Also do away with darkness and do it with the lights on

Men are visual beings and they like to watch as things unfold in front of them. Therefore, you need to keep the lights on in the bedroom. This will make both of you pay attention to each other’s bodies. Trying this new technique is a great way to make things fun and freaky for both of you. If you are self-conscious, you can dim the lights and your partner will still look sexy.

Tying your partner during intimacy is a great way to enhance sexual energy. It makes a person vulnerable and at the mercy of the other. This is fun, freaky, wild, and exciting. You will be able to pay attention to being pleased by your spouse. You can use a tie or a scarf to tie your partner’s hand to the bedpost or any other convenient place in the bedroom. Couples who try dominance and submission technique always have the best sex.

Everybody has a sexual fantasy. It is possible to turn both of your fantasies into reality. An open-minded partner will not judge you. He or she will be willing to try new things in bed with you. You will play both fantasies, making it freaky, but fun at the same time. Most couples do not open up about their fantasies. They fear that their partners will judge them. Therefore, this makes sex boring. Trying new things in bed is always fun and it will bring couples together.

Not everyone is good at talking dirty with a spouse. If you have no clue as to how to talk dirty, your partner can show you how to go about it. You can both start with the basics. For example, you feel good when your earlobe is nibbled. When you get used to it, you can push it a little more. This is a great opportunity to learn both of your limits. Trying new things in bed as a couple can make your connection grow stronger.

Most women like soft and tender sex. This can be boring, especially if you are both used to it. There is nothing wrong with indulging in rough sex at times. Rough sex needs couples to agree to what extent it should go. Some couples will be fine with being kissed on the lips roughly; others will not mind having it all rough, and then some more. Rough sex needs to escalate slowly to build the sexual energy. Couples who try new things in the bedroom like having rough sex can be wild and fun.

You can turn your man on when you dress in sexy lingerie. You will be surprised to see your man excited when he sees you in a sexy outfit. It will be up to you to take it to the next level or retain it to a certain level. Wearing a sexy outfit can be a good foreplay for couples. A man can also dress up. Good fitting underwear will look appealing to a girlfriend instead of loose underwear. Trying new things in the bedroom with your spouse can be fun and rewarding to your marriage.

STOP being that boring wife and let there be fireworks in the bedroom!