Love does not delight in evil

Nolwazi Mnikwa, Relationships

THAT which is evil is profoundly immoral and wicked. It is dishonourable, corrupt, atrocious, foul, dirty, shady, warped and crooked. An evil act is one which is purposefully done with the intention of causing harm or hurt to another person. Love, on the other hand, is kind, it does not have any room for evil, it does not take pleasure in evil, and it does not find joy in watching wicked deeds being done upon an individual. 

There are times you find that when someone is angry at their loved one, they seek revenge, they seek to make that person feel the pain that the person made them feel. This is not an act of love, it is rather an act of evil as love does not seek to do that which is wicked; love does not work at making someone else feel pain. 

 

 

It is surprising that there are “romantic” relationships that take place not out of love but they take place because one partner is on a revenge mission, either to hurt the person he or she is in a relationship with or to hurt those close to the person that he or she is in a relationship with. These are not genuine relationships. The sad part about these kinds of relationships is that one partner is genuinely invested in the relationship whereas the other partner has a wrong motive.

There are people with a “manje mina angenziwa njalo, uzangibona” mindset. It is a revenge kind of mindset where one intentionally seeks revenge on another just because of what would have been done to them. It could be a spouse, child, relation, colleague or business associate. This kind of mindset is one I personally would not encourage as it does not yield positive results but causes a further dent to the relationship. It is a kind of approach that actually clouds one’s judgment. Where there is love, instead of approaching a wrong done to you in the manner described above, it would be ideal to talk out the issue with the person who caused you hurt. Talking out the issue is the foundation that works at finding a solution and if the two of you just cannot seem to meet eye to eye on the matter then you seek the services of a professional counsellor or you approach a mutual person you both agree on and are comfortable talking to. 

The  manner in which an individual (including you) carries themselves is based on a number of reasons which are inclusive of how they were brought up, how they have been socialised, the beliefs that influence their lives and the values they carry. All these aspects contribute to the manner in which someone views and approaches things. With that being said, it is very possible that the person who wronged you may not even have realised they wronged you so instead of jumping into revenge mode, it would be ideal to communicate to them how they wronged you and talk it out with them. There are people who genuinely believe there is no evil on this earth so when they do that which is evil to you, they do not even consider it as evil as there is no evil according to them. So instead of being quick to return evil for evil, take time to communicate with the person who wronged you, find out the reason they did what they did and work at resolving the issue.

In the instance of friendships or business relations where the matter cannot be sorted out, it ideally would benefit both you and the other person to part ways. However, in parenting and marriage, the case is slightly different; there is the need to find a manner to work out differences and wrongdoings in these kinds of relationships.

Revenge or getting back at someone you claim to love is not an act of love, it does not show love in any way, it is rather an act of evil as it is an act purposefully designed with the intention of causing harm, hurt or pain to another person.

In order to avoid carrying out evil deeds in any kind of relationship, it is important to communicate to the one who wronged you when you have been wronged, to forgive as well as to let go of past hurts done to you by someone.

Love does not delight in evil as it is kind, it is both sympathetic and empathetic, it is caring and helpful and it is patient as well. Due to these attributes, love can never be wicked, it cannot purposefully hurt someone or intentionally do wrong to someone, it can never revenge. Where there is revenge there is no love, where there is intentional wrongdoing to hurt or harm someone, there is clearly no love there as love is compassionate.

I would love to hear your thoughts, comments and feedback as well as relationship topics you would like to have covered. You may send these to [email protected] or to +263775978857. Keep safe and be blessed.