Online Reporter
While her divorce battle with estranged husband Mnqobi “Shota” Shoba continues to make headlines, Phumeza Mdabe appears to be focusing her energy elsewhere.
In a video circulating on social media, Mdabe shared a heartfelt message about life, legacy and the importance of kindness, revealing that despite the challenges she is facing, she has found a sense of peace.
“Guys, I’m not gonna lie. Life is lifing. Life is lifing,” she said.
“But right now, I find myself in a moment where I’ve blocked everything out, and I’m happy, and I’m at peace, and I’m with people I love.”
The media personality went on to share a question that had been weighing on her mind.
“It was a question. I don’t know where the question came from, but it said, ‘what or who do you want to be remembered as when you’re gone’?”
Reflecting on what truly matters in life, Mdabe encouraged her followers to focus less on material things and more on the impact they leave on those around them.
“Guys, we chase, oh my gosh, we chase things that don’t matter. What matters is the memories we leave with our friends, our family, our children, our parents, our grandparents, our grandchildren.
“Guys, life is to be lived. Can we just live and forget about everything else that’s happening?”
The mother of two also opened up about how she hopes people will remember her one day.
“Those who know me know I love to laugh. I’m laughing. I laugh when it’s awkward. I laugh when it’s weird, because I don’t know what else to do. I hope I’ll be remembered for my laughter. I hope I’ll be remembered for my kindness. I hope I’ll be remembered for walking in a room and just changing the energy.”
Speaking about her children, Mdabe said she hopes they remember her as a loving and present mother.
“I want my kids to remember me as a loving mother who was always there for them, because I never had that.”
She encouraged people to lead with kindness, reminding her followers that everyone is fighting battles that may not be visible to others.
“Guys, kindness. Always be kind. You never know what the next person is going through.”
The emotional reflection comes months after Mdabe’s marriage to musician Shota came to an end.
According to “Sunday World”, Mdabe initiated divorce proceedings in July 2025, after accusing Shota of adultery as well as emotional and psychological abuse.
The couple ended their marriage after 11 years together.
The legal battle has continued beyond the separation. According to “Buzz Life News”, Mdabe is allegedly seeking R65,000 in spousal maintenance and R22,000 in child support.
The publication reported that Shota has challenged the maintenance request, claiming that he is currently unemployed and relies on close friends for financial support when necessary.
However, Mdabe has reportedly disputed those claims.
As per reports, court papers allege that Shota continues to earn substantial income through his entertainment industry work and other business ventures, including his involvement in DJ Black Coffee’s touring business.
The publication further reported that Mdabe’s court documents claim Shoba’s businesses generated close to R2 million between May and September 2025, with bank statements allegedly reflecting earnings exceeding R300K per month.
Their split became public in September 2025, when reports about the divorce first surfaced. – IOL
