Stay a yummy momma!

BEING a mum to young children is a full time job.

I don’t have kids of my own yet but I can tell you it’s no walk in the park.

I “borrowed” my sisters’ three children for a week and I just wasn’t ready!

A lot of time and effort goes into a day it’s really unbelievable. By the time the day is over, you’re tired and before you know it, you’re starting all over again.

When the minions came over, I thought, let me show these little people a good time. Do all the fun things children like to do but I was naïve.

I didn’t know I wouldn’t have the time or energy to do much outside the house. Between cooking meals, making sure they were well fed and clean, was answering 101 questions and explaining a million other things.

Then there was restraining them from breaking things or hurting each other. Trying to keep the house squeaky clean was almost impossible. Just when you think everything is done and in order, one minion comes through and messes up.

You start all over again – it’s crazy!

While they were around, I’d needed to get my eyebrows threaded and my hair done but I just couldn’t get the time. I’d even stopped combing my hair because it felt like a mammoth task. Besides, I thought, I’m not leaving the house so no one will care.

I should’ve cared more about myself.

How many households have you visited and at 1PM the lady of the house is still in her nighties and hasn’t taken a bath? She just hadn’t had the time yet, perhaps.

But I choose to call it neglect. Care how clean you are and how good you look – even when you’re indoors.

The experience taught me how important it is to plan, be systematic and most importantly to remember to save time for yourself.

A lot of women let themselves go after they have children. They stop caring about their bodies and their sense of style is lost somewhere along the way.

They start to wear sweat pants and sneakers or long unshapely dresses with flip flops because they don’t have the time or energy to keep themselves looking hot.

Most stop getting their hair done over long periods of time it’s scary. You hear people say, so and so used to be fresh, but as soon as they got married and started having children, they lost it. That should never be the case.

Never be too busy or tired to take care of yourself. There’s a whole world out there that requires you to stay slaying and keep your wardrobe on point.

Get someone to help you take care of the kids and take care of yourself better. Make it a point to do your hair when you’re supposed to. Keep your hands and feet well-manicured and this doesn’t necessarily mean getting fake nails and wearing nail polish.

It could just mean keeping them short, clean and cuticle free. While comfort is important, don’t swap your sexy jeans for a pair of granny pants.

There are ways of being fashionable without compromising your style and settling for baggy unflattering clothes. On a day out with the kids, go for pretty feminine prints paired with denims or a fun summer dress which can camouflage any stains that will come from their little hands.

Go all out on the jewellery, to make up for the flat shoes you’ll probably prefer for ease of mobility with your brood. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having your hair and make-up on fleek – they really can’t mess that up!

When the minions are not part of the date, go all out. Hair, make-up, shoes and don’t be afraid to wear a sexy number. Motherhood shouldn’t spell the end to your good fashion sense – stay a yummy momma!

Feedback from “A man who smells good is automatically more attractive”

Hie Yoliswa, I hope men will read your article in the Saturday Chronicle and understand the value of colognes. I always tell the men I work with to buy cologne because a man who smells nice is ALWAYS more attractive. – Sharon.

Hey. I love your articles because you say it as it is. A man who smells good is just a turn on. Men out there should learn to take care of their armpits. These are small things which matter big time. Keep on writing. – Monica.

Yolie, you’re such a good teacher. You’ve changed a lot of men. – Bonnie.

 Until next week, flaunt your pattern and style and don’t forget to drop me an SMS/Whatsapp on +263 774 492700, send an email to [email protected] or follow me on Twitter handle @YoliswaStarr.