Beer not a soul mate

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BEER seems to be the best comforter to many when they find themselves in trouble or heartbreak the unforeseen hurdle is that the results are more disastrous than expected.

Many people when heartbroken or experiencing some problems in relationships, beer becomes the best comforter while on the other hand finishing them off. I have seen a number of women and men who made the deadly decision of turning to beer during hard times.

I know when one is heartbroken; all he/she needs is something that will occupy his mind so he/she forgets about life’s unfavourably moments. Beer is not an option, but humans have always shown a desire for opting for the easy way out even though long or even short term repercussions are grinning on their faces. I have come across people who find companion in alcohol in a scary manner. History is rich with the effects of alcohol especial where people are supposed to act responsible and take care of their families.

There is a quick dangerous assumption whenever beer is mentioned. People are quick to dismiss women as potential abusers but that’s not the case.

Women also tend to find solace in alcohol whenever things go west or fail to work out as planned. Nevertheless, the main point drenching self in alcohol is the worst move that one can take as its results are close to sorrow. Decisions associated with abuse of alcohol have serious life repercussions ranging from financial, physical or even emotional impact.

People who decide to seek companion in the bottle instead of consulting their partners or amicable settling whatever would have triggered them to drinking sprees always find themselves in serious financial challenges. The disadvantage with imbibing uncontrollably is that the effects barely manifest themselves until it’s too late. The moment you decide to quit drinking you will discover that already you have a serious health problem which you could have easily avoided. I have seen people with severe scars either from beer brawls, falling or accidents related to drinking. Emotional people who abuse alcohol have a track record of abusing their partners and even children. We can go on until next year stating the impact of alcohol abuse in people’s lives especial on couples.

Remember no one is born an alcoholic, but what begins as a simple fun habit can take just a small emotional moment to trigger it into a serious alcoholic spiral. Relationships turn into bottled air once commitment is thrown outside the window. Whenever one of the partners finds comfort in alcohol, commitment becomes a dreaded point to approach let alone taking to hand some of the general chores held in the house. Already from the canvas I have covered with small details of alcohol abuse in relationships a clear picture of heartbreaks is taking shape. With beer abuse, heartbreaks are always at bay.

Marriages have broken down because of people who choose to turn to alcohol instead of solving problems in their relationships. It is even worse for women because once your man parts ways with you on the basis that you alcoholic, you even lose the children as you will be deemed irresponsible. Believe me, your children will never forgive you for deserting them when they needed you most because they will have missed that Mother’s love. As a woman, despite challenges one faces, alcohol is not the best solution, men should also take note.

As for men, there are a lot of case studies because most of those who turned to beer when their lives got to a curve, lost dignity, jobs, property and family. For how long will we continue having people repeating same mistake. The wise never repeat mistakes done by others!

Never find solace in beer! As we are already in a celebratory mood heading towards the festive season, many alcoholics are born and many relations will suffer so people have to be in control and not be losers.

FEEDBACK
It’s unfortunate that we are cultured to feel that to be a complete woman you have to be married. This then leaves some women who have failed to find a partner of their class desperate. So anything in trousers that gives love and promises marriage becomes worthwhile and the fact that they may be a gold digger never crosses one’s mind until it’s too late. There is lot of desperation to be married out there and trying to dissuade someone from any prospective marriage may be very difficult. Matters of the heart very difficult to mediate.

On the issue of fake relationships mmmmmmh I think that’s a worst time to live in. But you can easily identify fake love. The person who really loves you is unquestionable. ¾ of us are living in fake relationships where we are only forcing our partners to be closer to us, but truly speaking this kind of love is frustrating. Thank you for your topics, it teaches us to discover some things so that we decide before wasting our time. I appreciate your topics!
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