Betrayal destroys relationships

Life Issues with FGK

A friend can be jealous of you to the extent of fabricating stories just to make sure that you separate from your partner or you get fired from work.

It is natural for people to be in relationships.

However, it is important to note that all forms of association are based on trust.

But this trust is not built overnight.

We should not be quick to trust others, especially with sensitive information.

Not all people in our lives mean good.

Some are toxic and deceitful.

Not many people expect to be betrayed by the people close to them.

Betrayal is real and happens in many ways.

There are so many actions that constitute betrayal, with infidelity being one of them.

For instance, applying and getting a bank loan without your partner’s consent is wrong.

It even gets worse should you fail to pay back the loan, resulting in the family property being attached.

One of the trickiest positions you may be put in is managing your relationship with your partner’s family and friends.

You may end up feeling stuck and taking actions that your partner can easily classify as betrayal.

We have so many people that have been betrayed and are still nursing wounds.

Some had their husbands or wives snatched away by their best friends.

The situation even gets complicated at times as some have children outside wedlock or bring sexually transmitted infections home.

We do have cases of children that are born HIV positive because one of the partners was not faithful.

Relatives can also betray us, thus we need to be careful all the time.

Your blood sister can date your husband.

Likewise, your brother can date your wife.

There are people whose children were raped by relatives looking after them.

It can be a grandfather, uncle, nephew or cousin.

These kinds of sad things are happening in different communities.

A friend can be jealous of you to the extent of fabricating stories just to make sure that you separate from your partner or you get fired from work.

In many cases, such situations arise after you have shared some vital information with the supposed friend, who will, in turn, use it against you.

Let us note that betrayal is happening everywhere.

Even in churches, it is there.

Reports of church leaders that are taking advantage of their positions and sleeping around with their own congregants have become prevalent.

A person who is supposed to be a father figure, who is supposed to protect his own, is now the perpetrator of crime and abuse.

Honestly, what picture does this create in the eyes of the victim and community at large?

Betrayal destroys relationships.

Some even suggest it is much safer to expect very little from any relationship.

However, let us all remember that even after betrayal, there is still a chance for healing with the right help.

When affected, one should quickly seek help instead of letting the situation go out of hand.

For instance, dealing with betrayal in marriage requires a real investment of time, effort, help and understanding from both partners.

When a spouse betrays your trust, letting go of the self-hatred through forgiveness is a good starting point.

You should not betray your loved ones.

Always ask for forgiveness each time you are wrong.

Do your best to be a better person.