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THIS is the final installation on relationships, hoping that the notes have been inspirational.
In Romans 12 verses 2, Apostle Paul says, “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”
This is a dynamic verse with so many perspectives. However, today we will look at it from the courtship angle. The apostle says we must not think like the world. In other words, we must not behave or adhere to the same principles as that of the world.
The world is interesting. For example, we always talk of third world and first world nations. No one ever says third earth nations or first earth nations because that does not apply.
The word “world” refers to a cosmos, a universe, a way of life or a position. Hence third world nations have particular beliefs and a way of life that may differ with that of the first world.
So when Apostle Paul says, “… be not conformed to this world,” he is saying Christians should not think like the world thinks.
We ought to apply the same principle in our relationships.
God willing, in future instalments, l will dwell on the difference between dating and courtship. What is the general worldly relationship like? Basically, people go out for fun and in most cases, the relationships that are based on infatuation and lust are not serious. In such relationships, they date multiple partners simultaneously, they focus more on self rather than the other partner, the relationship is based more on looks and other material things such as money and assets
Generally a Godly relationship should exhibit destiny, it should be long lasting with future prospects, the partners should respect each other, God must be the reference point, it should be based on self-control and principles (transparency and honesty) and there should be no sexual activity
These attributes are just a snapshot. The two scenarios are completely different and there is no core-relation. You cannot find a common denominator because they are worlds apart. Only a few human elements such as spending time together and physical attraction co-exist in both worlds.
Now l need you to search your heart and honestly answer these questions. Is the difference between your relationship and that of a worldly couple simply that you go to church and they do not? Is the difference only that you and your partner pray here and there and they don’t?
When we become believers, we automatically become ambassadors of Christ and our lives are no longer ours. We now belong to Jesus, therefore your relationship should represent Christ.
While sexual feelings are perfectly natural and are God given, the challenge is in what we do with them and how we express our emotions. lt is obviously more difficult when you are attracted to someone. lf you have indulged in premarital sex with your partner, I encourage you to go back before God, re-commit to Him and desist from repeating the act. It is not easy but that is God’s will. Commit to God and ask Him to sanctify you. Self control is key. But when you re-commit to God, that does not mean everything becomes easier. However, it guarantees that God will guide you henceforth.
Till next week, God bless.
Tinashe Zinyemba is a pastor with New Life Convenant Church. Email: [email protected]
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