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MY granny called me this morning saying she had been contacted by my husband’s family about our pending separation. Ah, this man!
Anyway, the end result is that meetings must be held with different members with him and different members with me, then altogether. Eish, I don’t need this. What on earth will we be talking about that we have not already tried to talk about between the two of us?TUESDAY
I had lunch with Ms Mafuta today to find out what is what with meeting the extended family and the like over my marital issues. She seemed to think it was a great idea, surprise, surprise! I think she was cynical, wanting me to go through everything traditional so that she can have something to laugh about later.
Anyway, she explained what would be happening during the sessions. She said it was important for me before I get into the meetings to decide if I want to repair the marriage or do I want to get out. She also said just because we decided to get back together, it won’t mean that trust and all those things will come back – it doesn’t. She went on and on as usual, but at least she gave me enough information to put me at peace and at least guide me in the right way.
WEDNESDAY
No one at the house is speaking to me because by now they know that I want a divorce. I thought about moving out and going to my mother’s place just until this issue is sorted, but it would really complicate things.
And once I am out I will not come back. I know myself. I called both my sisters to let them know what is happening.
I did not give them too much information, just that my hubby and I are not doing well at the moment and it is not resolving itself. I was afraid to give them more information because they might get mad and beat my man up.
They were not happy at all. My older sister said we should seriously think about going for marital counselling. She said all the traditional stuff is good, but if the relationship is supposed to repair itself it will need more than just a big meeting or two. Counselling really!
THURSDAY
You won’t believe it Diary. Last night when I got home after meeting my sister, our church elder was waiting for me. I could not believe it. My husband said he had left a message on my phone and with my secretary. Of course, I did not get the messages because I have been ignoring that particular phone because it is the one his mistress calls me on. I ignored my secretary’s calls because I did not want to be bothered.
So I had no excuse, but to stay and chat. Yup, chat we did until I was in tears after telling the Man of God as much as I could. I was so mad and upset. The reason I was so angry was because my husband had not told the man of God exactly why our marriage was in so much trouble. He made it seem like it was just a number of misunderstandings.
Well, I told the Man of God that he was having an affair and now the girl said she was pregnant. I then told the Man of God that she was not the only one, there are others and I have evidence. He was so shocked he did not know what to say. There after it got crazy. My man got angry at me and then at the Man of God. I got really upset because it had not hit me until now just how hurt I was.
FRIDAY
Well, after yesterday’s session with the church elder, I decided it would be best for me to go and stay with my parents. My hubby slept on the couch and I slept in the children’s room. This situation is not healthy for me or the kids. Neither of us spoke to each other. We are both in pain.
SATURDAY
Both sides of the family met today over our marital issues and what a meeting it was. I did not understand half of what was going on or being said. I tried hard to be positive, but I am hurt and not able to get past it. They were here the whole day and the meeting ran into the night. By the time we all went to sleep, I was exhausted and numb. At this time I do not care what happens, I just want to leave.
SUNDAY
No one went to church today because we are still discussing the issues. Once again we talked and talked and talked. I don’t know Diary, I am just exhausted. Everyone has very good intentions, and it all makes lots of sense, but I am just too tired right now to appreciate any of it.
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