Disappointed on Valentinea��s Day?

Vuyelwa Sibindi

WHILE Valentinea��s Day may seem like a day to celebrate love and relationships, for many the day could have been lonely, sour and full of disappointments.

With many men coming up with excuses on why they didna��t buy gifts or take you out on Wednesday the disappointment probably caused a lot of heartache.

There are so many instances in the past when I wondered what this day was all about. In all honesty whether you are single, in a new relationship or even going through a break-up anxiety is unusually high this week.

Expectations can cause a lot of disappointments, picturing what your partner would get you and getting nothing at the end of the day. That was probably your worst day and it made you spend the rest of the week sulking.

But remember the choice is yours, do you want any more disappointments coming your way by sticking to your stingy partner or you can try moving on and probably finding a man who can spoil you?

Nothing breaks a womana��s spirit like hearing her man saying a�?I dona��t believe in all that crapa�? and if you got that statement then it is time to raise your standards and leave that man.

Every man knows that women love to be spoilt and taken care of so you also deserve your own share of happiness next year February.

Some might have woken up to a despondent partner, which also was a tactic to avoid the day but how did this make you feel?

Let us address one thing, a man who does not come to the party will always be a sore loser at the end. Ladies remember to raise your standards and if a man cannot cope he does not deserve to have you in the first place if you believe in Valentine and you got a silly excuse like a�?I dona��t believe in Valentinea�?. Get yourself a man who will respect you enough to make you feel special next Valentinea��s Day.

It is not being demanding but knowing what you want and what you deserve.

There is no reason why you should put up with a stingy man just to show how committed you can be, love is a two-way thing so both parties should be happy. There is no reason why you spent the week sulking just because your man didna��t spoil you.

I have also had the chance to see women who go all out for their men on birthdays, anniversaries or even on Valentinea��s Day only to get nothing in return. Some of you might have come across such characters too or might be in such a situation currently. Wake up and smell the coffee- there is a man out there searching for a generous woman like you as much as you are searching for a man who matches your efforts.

To single ladies who spent the day curled up in bed remember if you find yourself in the same situation next year dona��t wallow in sorrows remember you are bright and you are beautiful take off with your single girlfriends and have fun with them. The time you spend with your girls should be cherished, take advantage of the fact that you are single and enjoy.

To the lucky ladies who were showered with gifts and love show your partner that you appreciate them and their efforts. Get them something in return or plan a date with them just to show them that you appreciate their efforts.

For the ladies who were going through a rough patch in their relationships and ended up getting nothing in return on Wednesday ita��s time to bring sex back into your relationships. Mend those fences.

Remember that love should be celebrated daily and next year is another year and the day might bring different fortunes, build the foundation today. .