adminTRUE love is sweeter when finally found, so goes the cliché.
Finding a compatible partner is every suitor’s dream during courtship.
Perfect partners know how to satisfy their lovers. Happiness is guaranteed when Mr/Miss Right arrives in the fullness of time.
Once the perfect partner has been found, marital bliss will be guaranteed. Affection, which drives most suitors during courtship, should come as a bonus and never a measure of true love.
True love is demonstrated by our deeds, honesty and humility.
Once these ingredients are lacking, we are no longer talking about true love but civil war.
In life there are some couples who stay under one roof, even when love and affection have long disappeared.
These situations of feuding couples are no longer a secret in most homes.
Counsellors are now the busiest professionals as they try to assist warring parties.
Gender-based violence, perennial fights and all forms of abuse, are usually encountered in such homes where true love is non-existent.
Sadly, it always ends in tears when dialogue to mend such rocky relationships fails.
In worse cases, violence becomes a staple of these discordant couples.
Yesterday, we carried a sad story of a Kadoma man, who axed his wife several times following a dispute, leaving her with multiple wounds and mutilated legs.
She was only saved by fellow farm workers when the damage had already been done.
The suspect fled the scene and is currently on the run.
Reports say the woman had been warned to quit the toxic marriage but to no avail.
The couple received counselling sessions but the man remained unrepentant.
At the height of their dispute, in the dead of the night, the man allegedly struck his wife with an axe.
She is now wheel-chair bound, after being savaged by the father of her two children. Instead of showing his wife true love, the man proved he was now a beast who deserves to be caged in the zoo.
The woman is now stranded at a local hospital where bills are ballooning with each passing day.
However, her case should come as a lesson to partners, who are still in toxic relationships and marriages.
Love is not worth dying for but rather it should heal bleeding souls.
Ditching abusive partners is the only solution when dialogue and counselling fail to yield results.
Of course, desperation and love for material things have led some partners to commit themselves into such dangerous affairs.
No matter how one is pampered with gifts, peace of mind is needed.
It’s high time partners in abusive marriages get firm and resolute by quitting such unions.
Fear of the unknown has seen most partners being tormented for their entire lives.
As a nation, we need to desist from violence or any form of abuse that can affect the other party.
Once dialogue, counselling and court processes have failed, surely committing ourselves to such toxic relations, should never be an option.
Mathew Masinge
Online Reporter