Get real and move on . . .

LOVE is one tricky thing which can keep you for years and years having hope in something and at times not becoming honest with yourself.

Todaya��s topic will hurt some, but ita��s an unavoidable truth that should be said in black and white.

I have discussed this issue with a number of women and to be honest ita��s always hard for me to advise someone to dump her boyfriend whom it will be clear she loves a lot, but on the other hand, the man will be just wasting her time.

Just come to think of it, that there are people who have been in relationships for more than six years, but the man will be full of stories and not promising commitment anytime soon. To make matters worse, most of the times such men demand to be introduced to the womana��s family while they do not want to do the same.

Of course, there are some who can do introductions, but still do not want to hear of commitment.

Sisters if you have been in a relationship for too long and your man is not showing any signs of taking your relationship to another level, wake up and make a wise decision. The painful truth is that most men who act this way will just use you and dump you.

They will leave you with heartbreak and it will take you time to recover and at the same time, most probably you will be a�?a�?no longer in the marketa��a��.

My sister, do not waste your precious time on a situation which you see is not going anywhere. At times from day one someone realises that this thing is not going anywhere, but keeps on hoping. In fact, at the end of the day you will be left hurting, sad and disappointed even though the signs were there the entire time.

If your heart and mind tell you that your relationship is going nowhere, walk away!

Some of the reasons why a man may not want to commit may include having other girlfriends in mind, being haunted by a past experience, not into you to commit, his friends are still single and he is afraid of missing out and is only in it for sex. Wake up and stop giving excuses for him not wanting to be committed!

Sisters, even if he is a great partner, the fact that he does not want commitment shows that you do not have similar goals, better moving on before it gets too late. Also remember that there is no ideal time to leave. Saying goodbye will never be easy. If your goals are not aligned, the time to leave is now. Walking away sooner than later will help ease your pain and preserve your self-esteem. If he tries to convince you to come back, remind yourself he is not capable or willing to give you what you want.

On the other hand, I know such long term relationships where you get used to breaking up and reuniting. Try to stick to your decision knowing that what you are doing is for the best and a step forward.

Time waits for no one! The more time you spend with a man who does not want the type of relationship you seek, the less time you are available for meeting a man who shares your desire for commitment and marriage. Just stop wasting your time!

You should also know that by continuing down the same path it hurts both of you. When you send mixed signals, for example saying you want marriage, yet continuing to be with a man who doesna��t want commitment, you continue to attract more of the same hurt and frustration. Dona��t live your life in limbo. Doing so only takes you further away from what you really want.

Get crystal clear. Focus on and take action towards what you truly want in a relationship. Dona��t waste time with wishful thinking. Instead, determine the qualities you want in your ideal man and relationship.

Prepare to stretch your comfort zone. Ita��s time to do the inner work and prepare yourself for something bigger and better. When you feel discomfort in that process, know that the challenge helps you grow in a positive way. Take action towards your hearta��s desire and meet a man who wants the same type of relationship that you do!

To all those sisters who feel they have been used and are afraid to move on because they have wasted so much time, ita��s never too late to put your house in order than waste more years!

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