Go for the cowgirl

Nhlwalenhle Dube

Sisters hope I find you well, as we continue to tackle issues that affect our relationships.

Thank you very much for the overwhelming response on last weeka��s issue, it shows that we have a healthy debate culture that creates a path to unison in some of the things we discuss.

After wide consultations with different ladies from different backgrounds, I was inspired to bring to the fore the issue of being in charge when it comes to the bedroom game.

Not necessarily initiating the game but actually dictating the pace and positions.

I was disappointed to note that most sisters that I spoke to, still have that men-are-in-charge mentality. Yes, sisters to an extent they do, but in this generation, sisters that are sexually active must be able to tell or using actions to direct their partner into sex positions that satisfy them.

The bedroom game is all about mutual sexual satisfaction. Otherwise, it becomes a useless physical taxing race.

That being said as sisters we are supposed to know which sex position gives us extreme clitoris stimulation so that we reach the big toe curling O without much struggle. This is where sex positions come into play. Sisters being sexually active and open to your partner is not a reflection of lack of morality or being wayward, rather ita��s a sign of showing initiative. After all sex is the backbone of every bedroom life without it, life becomes boring and predictable.

As a result my sisters why not show that sexual initiative to your partner and be suggestive, take the bull by its horns and be a cow girl.

Talk of a cow girl. This is one of the best sex positions, whereby you can ride your man taking advantage of being on top, regulating the pace and ensuring that his manhood stimulates you on all the points, the results can be nothing but satisfying for both partners.

Nevertheless, several sisters cautioned during my mini research that their partners were not open to new sexual position suggestions. From my own perspective sisters you have to diplomatically suggest these positions. You dona��t just from the blue say that I dona��t like your position, it creates or rather paints a naked illustration that hea��s failing you.

I would rather suggest that you tell him, a�?bae I like this position that we always do, but I think it will be more interesting if we do it this way.a�? In that way I bet my last dollar it will work out.

With all this being raised, ita��s wise sisters to acquaint yourself with several sex positions before you suggest them.

Remember like in any set up practice makes perfect. Dona��t expect fireworks on your first attempt. High expectations can lead to severe disappointment.

So sisters as we embark on an orgasm-filled sexual quest to explore new sex positions leta��s bear in mind, the approach, how to go about it without making him feel inferior and mostly delivering as expected. Am looking forward to your feedback on different sex positions that you would have tried out on the next feedback, till then leta��s keep the bedroom game alive. .