daniel chigunweDr Nick Ohizu
The Voice of God
Since it has occurred that we are launching our column in the month of February, which is the month of love. It is good to start with hearing God’s perspective when it comes to the issues of choosing a life partner, getting, and remaining married.
We cannot deny the fact that marriage originated from God and His perspective on the subject matter is located in His statement found in Genesis 2:18[NLT] “Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”
The subject matter cannot be ignored because marriage is an institution established on the foundation of godliness and love.
Making decisions of marriage with divine inspiration is important as we know that 90 percent of our happiness will come from getting that decision right.
God’s statement proves the following:
Marriage originated from God.
Therefore, God should lead us, not our flesh when choosing a life partner. Many people have made grievous mistakes which have created a lifetime of pain and misery because they failed to depend on or consult with God when making that decision.
The success of life partnership depends on “I will make him a helper who is just right for him.”
This means that God made, is still making and knows who is just right for you. Many marriages are broken because people chose based on who is rich, beautiful, accessible, or pregnant but not “who is just right” from God’s perspective.
“Just right” speaks more of compatibility not availability. Adam accepted God’s choice for him, and I believe that whether you are married or still searching, it will work out better if you let God choose or make for you.
“I will make”: If God promised that He will make, then it means that He is willing to be involved in making a home out of your house; a wife out of that woman and a husband out of that man.
We are created by God and there is no one that knows us better than our creator. Many of us have met failure in marriage and relationships because we are trying to do God’s job.
God said “I will make” meaning you are not equipped to change any human being.
You engage God through prayers to help you make your spouse understand you; help you make your house a home and make happiness a reality in your marriage. Otherwise, if you insist on going it alone, you might live a life of pain and regret.
4. Finally, God said “I will make”. The word ‘make’ connotes a process. Let us first consider how long it takes to make a child, how long it takes to make a house, how long it takes to make a car.
If these things require process, patience, and commitment to make, then why are we not patient enough to allow God to make for us a befitting spouse?
The problem with some single folks is that some of them are too much in a hurry to find and then forget that they have not found because what they’re looking for is still in the making so that when the person shows up they will just be right for them.
Allowing someone’s marital destiny to push you to settle for what God has not made for you will leave you with scars of pain.
To the married, I humbly suggest that we need patience as we engage God to help us make the one we chose into the one that is right for us.
Whether married or single, just remember that God is the one who promised to make for us. So, if you are looking for what God is making or going to make, please start from God’s factory — the church.
• To be continued.
Dr Nick Ohizu is the senior pastor of The Empowerment Ministries and The President of the Empowerment School of Wealth both located in Graniteside Harare. He is a successful entrepreneur with vast experience in leadership, mentorship, business and marriage consultancy with a mandate from God to change lives and bless people.
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Mathew Masinge
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