It must be about love not his cash . . .

IN last weeka��s instalment when I said, a�?Get real and move ona�? a�� it was directed at all women who have wasted so much time with men not ready to commit and not CLEAR on what they want in life. Just rubbing it in!

During discussions, someone raised an interesting topic of money and love. She said she has been in a relationship with someone for more than six years and is afraid of taking their relationship to another level because the man is loving, but not financially well off.

Interestingly, it turned out that most women prefer partners who have got cash. Someone even went to an extent of mentioning that if she is in a relationship with a man who does not have money, ita��s a turn-off. No matter how much that man touches her, shea��s never turned on, so sad!

Sisters, please get real, relationships are not all about someonea��s financial standing. You have to know that money will never buy you happiness. Get married to someone you are crazy about rather than sticking to a person because he manages to provide whatever you need.

Remember life is so unpredictable, that rich boyfriend can wake up one day without a job or go bankrupt. Are you going to manage to stick around when he can no longer afford to keep up appearances, NO. Stick to someone because of love, no matter what you go through, LOVE will keep you together.

Of course, in the short term money is very important, but in the long run, or in the great scheme of things, love is more important and in fact, it may be the only thing that really matters as it brings fulfilment.

To give a literal example, (the love of )money besides being the root of all evil in the Biblical perspective, the metaphor doesna��t dwell much from reality in as far as relationships go.

If a man can buy his way into your heart it relates to an economic transaction which is not less than what happens in the middle of the night at infamous avenues where flesh is peddled for the available amount of money.

Sisters, what is the cost of your heart?

I reminisce back then when ladies played hard to get and never bothered about the gifts, but all they wanted was to be shown true love and onea��s seriousness.

I am not disputing the relevance of money in a relationship, but it doesna��t have to be a priority.

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Your Column has helped me a lot especially the yesterweek one.

Kutiwazvara ubve pamurume zvinonetsa veduwe.

Most sisters do not understand the little tell-tale signs eg failure to honour simple promises like airtime it shows unreliability, but women ignore such tendencies only to cry when heartbroken. Do not sink with the ship, get out while you can. Also the reason why most women find it hard to walk away is they believe they can change him. Truth is most men invest money in relationships while women invest emotions. Ita��s easy to pull the plug on money than on emotions.

It is very true and good advice, but ita��s very hard to leave the one you love.

Well said my dear, this is true. No additions or subtractions it is well placed.

Thanks mummy for such a powerful message.

Ita��s very interesting, women cannot live together not even with her younger sister uyathola zikhamene kwelinye ilanga angazi yindaba. It reminds me of the song by Phuzekhemisi which says, a�?a�?vele anjalo amantombi, kwafika amantombazana azosxabanisa kodwa besihleli kahlea��a��.

Ngiyakuzwa my sister, truly you cannot be in a relationship for six years without marriage, no it cana��t. As for a woman, ita��s waste of time coz sizwa bethi umfazi at 35, she is out of market singazi how true it is. Kodwa at times it will be the woman afraid of commitment.

Your subject last week was emotional. Men are sometimes double-crossed; ita��s not the girl child alone being used.

Your article was really interesting. Some girls date married men as they think they are superior and like good life which they never sweated for. The other thing there is competition in terms of education so to speak so if a girl reaches her 30s it would be difficult for her to get a bachelor unless if he is a divorcee. So moving on might be difficult especially if the relationship goes for too long (5 years) and suddenly a man bolts out, it becomes hard to manoeuvre. I even know of a certain lady aged 37 who was dumped by her long time boyfriend and now she is stranded as she cannot get a young man.

Get real and move onA�.A�.A�. ita��s true and you can wait only to be dumped one day. Men are so cruel they pile up girlfriends and make sure you do not have anyone besides him.

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