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Mashudu Mambo
THE love story of Bigboy Dube and Uris Ncube from Gwanda is a true testament that money cannot buy love as their love blossomed amid financial challenges.
The couple has been married for 34 years and they are blessed with four children and three grandchildren. Dube said he met his wife at a wedding in 1988 in Filabusi, Matabeleland South province.
“I met my wife at a wedding of a mutual friend and from the first glance, I fell in love with her so I decided to try my luck. In those days, asking out a woman was a huge task because it would take about two months for your proposal to be accepted and they would usually give you a handkerchief as a symbol that your proposal was accepted,” he said.
Dube stated that they tied the knot in 1990.
“It was my wife’s character that drew me towards her and this is because of the way that she carried herself around. In those days, I had nothing but just one blanket and she fell in love with me regardless of my financial condition. After months of trying, she finally accepted my proposal and we got married in 1990. We were blessed with our first child in 1991,” he said.
Dube indicated that the secret to their long-lasting marriage has been patience and respect.
“The secret is being patient and respecting each other’s views in the relationship. In our marriage, love has been the centre of everything because my wife loved me when I had nothing and this has kept us to date,” he said.
Dube highlighted that a number of relationships were failing because there was no more respect among couples.
“A number of marriages are failing these days because people no longer respect their partners and this is largely attributed to their financial status. There are cases where both partners are financially stable and because of this the man or the woman is not willing to apologise even when they are wrong,” he said.
Ncube indicated that what drew her towards her husband was his commitment to their relationship.
“I met my husband after I finished my Form Four studies and returned home to Filabusi. He was very persistent with his proposal and I took my time to get to know him and accept his proposal. In our days, when one was choosing a partner they did not consider their financial status but rather it was sorely based on true love because we met when none of us were working,” she said.
Ncube highlighted that they stayed together regardless of their financial state.
“When we got married, I never returned to my father’s house when I saw that my partner was struggling, but rather we worked together to acquire the houses and shops that we have now. This is because our love strengthened and helped us endure the different phases that we had in our lives,” she said.
Ncube indicated that several marriages were failing because youths were comparing their partners with others.
“A number of marriages are failing because people compare their partners to other well-up individuals, neglecting that the important factor in marriages is love, and this has made a number of people miss out on getting true and genuine spouses,” she said.
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