Sidumisile Mabena
Mthokozisi Ncube, [email protected]
AWARD-winning Zimbabwean video vixen and content creator Nessanobz says motherhood has transformed her life, teaching her self-respect, emotional maturity and the importance of prioritising what truly matters.
As the world celebrates Mothers’ Day, the single mother reflected on how raising her son has shaped her both personally and professionally.
“Being a mum has made me grow up. I find myself overthinking every decision I make workwise, wondering if it will impact my son down the line,” she said.
“It’s like I am constantly checking in with my future self, making sure I am setting a good example. It has also changed how I handle myself emotionally. It has come with lessons of self-respect, self-love and the urge to be a better person.”
The social media personality said balancing work and parenting requires understanding one’s priorities.
“Yes, putting food on the table is a major thing, but there are days I don’t sign contracts because my son needs attention. There are also days I juggle both roles because it is necessary.”
She revealed that consistency and communication have become central to her parenting approach.
“Children pick up on inconsistency, so I always make it a point to communicate with him about how my work goes and I also give him a monthly intimate mother-and-son date.”
Nessanobz admitted that separating her personal life from work became necessary after painful lessons that once affected her child’s wellbeing.
“In the past few years, I have learnt to separate my personal life and work because mixing the two landed my son in hospital twice. Now, before I leave for work, everything is sorted for him, and I make in-between check-up calls with my helper.”
She also spoke about the stigma often directed at women in her profession, saying public judgement can sometimes be discouraging.
“The most challenging part is when people forget my child is still under 18 and there have to be strict boundaries. Sometimes people ask how my son will view me 10 years from now, and those judgements can be discouraging.”
Despite the challenges, she says her son remains her greatest motivation.
“If God had not given me this child, I would have lost myself and my mind a couple of times.”
To fellow single mothers, her message is simple: “You are doing amazing. Focus on progress, not perfection.
Celebrate every win, no matter how small, and be the parent you wish you had for yourself.”
Online Reporter