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TRUE love knows no beautiful face!
For how long will women allow men to play mind games with them.
Of late, some are making a lot of noise accusing women of being fraudsters and misleading them with their makeup.
But really, who believes such a fairy tale?
Someone claiming he was tricked into marriage, only to discover later that the woman he got married to was an ugly duckling.
Surprisingly some people are getting carried away with all these made up stories. It’s just funny excuses, to begin with, one does not only consider facial appearance when making the final decision to marry someone.
Therefore, my sisters do not stop applying makeup fearing to be victims, waking up being accused of “cheating”. Get up, bath and take your time to have makeup on point.
Of course some days you can choose to have no makeup. It is by choice!
You know your skin best, so there is no way someone can order you to go public without makeup. If it helps you to have confidence, go for it.
There are some women with pimples and spots, making it difficult for them to go out without makeup.
If they go out without covering up the spots, some people laugh at them and do name calling.
All this affects someone’s self esteem.
So with makeup they have got no bad intentions, but just to look presentable and beautiful.
It’s a funny world, a loving partner will always accept you the way you are, spots or no spots on your face, you remain his Queen. I did my own survey and all men claim they consider not only facial appearance, but a lot of things before marrying someone.
As a woman, do not only be worried about your makeup, but your character counts and how you treat him.
Everyone wants to be loved. If you have committed to spend a lifetime with a man through nuptials, you must love him. But loving is not enough. A relationship thrives on the expression of that love, among other emotions.
So if you love your husband, tell him and show him how much he means to you.
You don’t have to make elaborate expressions of love everyday. It could just be little gestures such as a kiss or a peck on the cheek now and then, or making him feel it.
In any relationship, communication is critical. Throw away the misconceived notions that a partner is supposed to know what the other one thinks and wants.
Your husband cannot read minds, just as you can’t. You may know about each others’ likes and preferences but not necessarily what they are thinking or feeling.
Open communication in the relationship means that you tell your partner what you think or feel and what you expect of him.
Talk to him, ask, say, and discuss. Avoid the silent treatment, which can make things worse. Don’t leave him guessing about what you want and avoid assuming or imagining things about his behaviour.
A little teasing is alright, but insulting is not okay. So watch what you say and think before you speak.
Not everything that your husband likes could interest you. You don’t have to do things that he likes, but give your husband the space to pursue his interests and show some curiosity about what he’s doing.
Ask him about the game, book or hobby that he is interested in. Do a little homework and learn about the things he is interested in so that you can have a conversation about that too.
Listening is critical for effective communication, and perhaps more important than talking.
So make a conscious effort not just to hear, but listen and understand when your husband is talking. Pay attention to him during a conversation.
Put away your phone, turn off the TV or turn down the music that could be distracting you. Giving your husband your full attention when he is speaking shows how much you respect him.
Listening does not mean you have to agree with him. But even to disagree, you must listen to what he is saying.
Men, too, have this need to be loved, appreciated and praised.
Tell him how much you appreciate the little things he does for you, for the children or in the house.
Praise encourages him to do more for you and also sends the message that his efforts are recognised. You don’t have to sing his praises to show appreciation.
A simple, genuine “thank you” will suffice.
Honesty is the base for a trusting relationship.
Marriages that last are based on honesty and open communication, with no place for cheating or lying.
Your husband deserves honesty and truthfulness from you, just as you do from him.
Be your true self, if you are not comfortable with who you are, you will not be comfortable revealing your true self to your partner.
Be your true self in a relationship, right from the beginning.
Being true to who you are is also about being honest with your husband and that helps to build a trusting relationship.
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