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Fadzayi Maposah-Correspondent
I am still to reach the point where I can say I understand men 100 percent.
I am sure not a single man can say with total confidence that he understands me.
It seems men and women are a mystery to one another and strive to try and understand the other gender for the obvious reason of living in peace.
For example, being a female, I really I do not understand how two males can sit next to each other for a long journey and still not remember what the other person was wearing.
From a woman’s perspective, this is unbelievable.
Just how do you sit next to someone, occasionally talk to them and not notice what they are wearing?
Asking as a female!
The males will probably ask; do you have to talk to everyone you meet?
When I sit next to someone, I notice what they are wearing and if they talk to me, I can even describe how they talk and even share the kind of words they put emphasis on!
I always notice what one is wearing.
It became even more pronounced when I started wearing spectacles because I can look at someone behind the mask of the tinted glasses and in the process the person has no clue what is happening!
With age, I have become a bit more daring than I used to be.
I like to find out what is going on and why it is happening.
I guess I am more aware of the child that is within me.
The young Fadzi is back!
Last week I wrote about the state of bathrooms, given their sizes and I have received much feedback regarding some sisters’ experience when they had to relieve themselves in a public toilet.
The visit to the bathroom should not be a punishment, or torture or something that one dreads.
It is just part of nature and it should be respected and supported in all facets that are possible.
I think these toilets were probably designed by men.
This is a clarion call for females to design a ladies’ bathroom so there can be a female certified bathroom.
I look forward to the day when I can walk into a bathroom that has the label: Ladies, designed for women’s convenience and comfort.
Female engineers do us some justice.
If there are already such bathrooms, please let me know!
Back to the daring bit.
How many of us females have had to travel with males?
I am sure that we all have had the opportunity to travel with them.
These males can be our fathers, brothers, partners, uncles or our workmates or even those from the faith based organisations that we go to.
So in most cases in Zimbabwe if travelling by road, most people choose to stop at a food outlet.
The idea of stopping at a food court is that it kills two birds with one stone.
The first bird is going to the bathroom and in most cases these are well maintained and clean, and the second bird is that you can get food, physical fuel for the journey.
The males and females will go into the food outlet and agree to meet at a counter to order the meal after everyone has been to the bathroom.
A female will walk out of the bathroom thinking that she has been as fast as Usain Bolt only to be questioned by male counterparts on what had taken her so long.
I have ceased to answer such questions; I have relegated them to rhetoric ones.
Such questions do not deserve answers. How do I start the process of explaining what a female needs to get done in the bathroom?
Are the males prepared to listen? Will they understand?
I went on an investigation. I visited a few male bathrooms (empty ones, be gentle!) Male bathrooms have a urinary.
A few males can line up by the urinary and relieve themselves. I hear that at some points they can chat and catch up on issues as they go through the natural process.
Then there are a few cubicles in addition to the urinary. A number of men can relieve themselves at the same time.
So as fast as Usain Bolt or Elliot Mujaji, they can enter and leave the bathroom.
Our bodies are created differently. Females can only line up to relieve themselves in a forest! In the built bathroom, this is not possible.
Even in the forest, there is need to negotiate their way first.
The positions that we use are also different. A male walks into the bathroom with just his hands in his pocket.
If he has a computer, it is in a back pack and it will not interfere with what he has to do.
Our male counterparts be patient with us your female relatives.
Our bodies too have different functions.
Looking at the reproductive organs, the male reproductive system is more external than internal while the reverse is true for the female reproductive system.
That having been said, the fact that males and females have both internal and external organs, it is important to understand that these organs are interconnected.
How the male and female organs are taken care of and maintained cannot be the same.
Have we ever heard that there are some high maintenance gadgets?
These gadgets require there is time for maintenance.
Menstruation is one process that requires maintenance and due diligence.
A soiled pad that has overstayed next to a female’s body will signal its presence.
So what is better to be asked: “What took you so long?” or “What is that funny smell?”
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