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Last week I spoke so much on abstinence as God’s will for the human race as far as sexual intercourse is concerned. We saw it as a God made and given contraceptive method which unfortunately humanity has put aside for their own creations that will make them comfortable when sinning. The challenge the world is facing is its inability to make a difference between sin and human rights. There is also skewed up understanding of the will of God concerning our behaviours and many of us just go with everything the world has said. That is not my interest here today, but I want us to continue on these two key contraceptives God gave us.
If we do not promote, teach and encourage abstinence, we cannot talk of faithfulness in marriage. The reason why it is so hard to be faithful in marriage is that we did not abstain before marriage. These two go hand in hand and faithfulness is built on our ability to abstain. When I abstain I am learning to be faithful with me first. I think we all must understand that abstaining teaches us self-control and self-respect. Anyone who cannot respect themselves cannot respect the other person. A lot of us in this generation have no self-respect when it comes to expressing our sexuality. That is why we can sin openly and brag about it and justify it the way we want. We are a generation that is so proud about our sin and sinfulness and we have called it whatever we want. This is an unfortunate thing.
I believe that we need, perhaps as Zimbabwe first, to be deliberate in teaching and encouraging our youth to self-respect and self-control. One great way of doing this is through training on abstinence. Abstinence from sexual intercourse, drugs, alcoholism, corruption and deliberate sinfulness. Our schools and universities can truly adopt such teachings and encourage their students. I think it will be folly for us to fold our arms and continue teaching all the academics we teach knowing fully well that our students are not living right and are fornicating, drinking and becoming more immoral each day.
To me this is pretense of the highest order. What kind of a generation are we producing? What kind of leadership are we producing? I believe we have to come into terms with the realities of our circumstances and face up with all the brutal facts and plan accordingly. We do not want to produce educated failures in our nations. Sexual immorality is one problem that can destroy nations. We ignore it at our own peril. We must, no matter how hard, try our best as communities to educate and encourage our people on the dangers and effects of such immorality. It is our duty to teach others and therefore let us teach our young to abstain and to be faithful in marriage and in life general.
Governments should be deliberate on teaching and encouraging abstinence and faithfulness in schools, colleges, universities, and all centers of learning. Teach this from a Biblical perspective upholding individual choice. Teach also from a culture point of view that does not infringe on individual choices.
Make available everywhere, information on abstinence and faithfulness. Here I have in mind posters and pamphlets displayed in schools and offices and public places. My observation is that there is little information on this given to people.
Governments should make available budgets for the promotion of abstinence. The results will be overwhelming.
The church has to be sincere and come out in the open to encourage and teach on abstinence and faithfulness. This is its mandate.
Like I said, if you looked at this from a holistic point of view, it has more benefits to nations and individuals. I believe that as communities we must not shy away from teaching our children the basic truths about sexuality. We must not leave this to chance and human rights activism. We must be deliberate and have policies that promote godliness in our midst. Beloved, sexual immorality has devastating effects on human life and all of us must be concerned. Its effects also have a great bearing on national budgets. You and I have a duty to protect the generations that are coming. We can do so by being sexually responsible now. We can do so by teaching each other the truth of God concerning our sexuality now. Granted, we have done a lot of mistakes sexually, this does not stop us from turning around and facing up to the truth of God. He is a just God who forgives and restores.
We cannot hope for a brighter future for us and our children when we are so sexually reckless. That will be day dreaming. If the future is going to be bright and rosy, let us stop where we are and re-think our conduct. Let us stop where we are and come to our senses. Let first things be first things and let there be order in our heads. Let young people go to school and pursue destiny before pleasure. Let parents be parents who teach and encourage their children holistically. Let the young honour their parents and let the elderly respect the young also. Let marriage be respected by all and let sexual immorality be a common enemy that all of us want to destroy.
If you are not yet married, kindly do yourself and your future a favour by abstaining. You lose nothing but you gain more.
Preserve your body and your life. If you are married, be faithful to your spouse. Stay away from unfaithfulness, it hurts you more than you think. If you have indulged, confess to God and turn around. He is faithful and just to forgive and cleanse you.
Beloved, we can all turn around and enjoy the future.
Kilton Moyo is creator of Fruitful Marriages, a renewal and enrichment program and is a pastor, counsellor and author of The Sex Trap. Call or whatsapp on +263 775 337 207, +263 772 610 103 or +263 712 384 841. mailto:[email protected]
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