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Brian Ngosi
RECENTLY I found myself standing with my brother and another individual I was meeting physically for the first time.
We were waiting for a client, and having a laugh.
My brother remarked that we should “not be an organisation of poor friends”.
He meant it to be a joke, but it pierced my heart.
I reflected on it as a reality check of the life that I live with my friends.
Between the three of us, I tried to qualify and quantify our union.
As you stand with your own friends, what is your ‘organisation’ worth?
When you gather as friends does society derive value from your gathering?
As individuals do you add value to each other?
Do not just meet up with your friends in situations where you only meet for social reasons without imparting any value to yourself and those around you.
Has it ever occurred to you that every meeting that you attend takes something away from you?
Derive value from your interactions with family and friends.
If your organisation does not change or broaden your perspective on life let it go.
If you do not gain tangible life skills from your union, then it probably qualifies as “an organisation of poor friends”, and therefore not worth your time or resources.
If no one can testify to the benefits of your engagements with them, then something is wrong.
If you are yet to derive value from a long existing union, it might be time to part ways.
Remember, you cannot make time for everyone, so those that you afford your attention should add value to your life.
You will die poor if you have nothing to gain from the people you spend time with.
One of the biggest mistake is spending time with people who drain your energy and desire to prosper.
Your best days are those spent with people who challenge you to be a better person.
Any union should be driven by a cross pollination of ideas that improve each individual’s livelihood.
Life skills, business ideas, survival tactics, contingent plans, and risk management initiatives should form the basis of a worthwhile union.
It is healthy to socialise, but remember there is more to life after the food and drinks.
If your gathering is just a financial drain, then you have a problem.
If you always find yourselves up at beerhalls, discussing unproductive issues, that is a shame.
How can you can organise the best party, but cannot set up a simple business meeting.
You intimately know each other’s clubbing preferences, but you do not have the slight details about each other’s business ventures.
Your life reflects your union, you need to make wise choices about the people you spend time with.
What you share determines who you will become and the mirror of this reality is looking at your friends.
As a union you should improve each member.
As friends you do not always have to talk. Act upon what you are worth as a group.
As friends, each person should contribute to positive debate and discussion.
Alas, time and energy is usually lost on discussing topics that are not only immaterial, but sometimes even far from the reality of your situation.
Your vision is molded by what your friends whisper into your ear.
Why are you listening to complaints all the time?
Does it not make more sense to be among people who look at their situation and seek to take advantage of existing opportunities?
An organisation of poor friends will understand the problem more than they are prepared to come up with opportunities that align with the existing problems.
If at any point you have never referred, or had someone referred to you by your friend to make a conversation that touched lives for the greater good, then it is time to change your grouping.
If you are not creating value among each other as friends, then you are probably weighing each other down.
You are what you are because of those with whom you spend time.
Poverty is a product of who you befriend, make a deliberate choice to avoid “an organisation of poor friends”.
*Brian Ngosi is a life coach and motivational writer with a desire to inspire individuals to make a difference for the greater good of society. Brian can be interacted with on: [email protected], Facebook: #BN_inspired or WhatsApp: +263772440383
Bongani Ndlovu
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