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Nowadays there is a specific type of man most women rush to, but unfortunately, they seem to be bad news following the shocking details of distraught women, who get dumped as soon as they break the news of pregnancy.
I know someone is trying to recall the last time she/he heard of a dumped pregnant girl or woman. While trying to understand all this, you cannot ignore the causes of such behaviour in this day and age. The blame game has become common with each gender citing the weaknesses of the other. Some blame women for running to the specific type of men that are good-looking, driving cars and with a bunch of tattoos, and so forth. Most women willingly and enthusiastically throw themselves at these guys, often getting pregnant in the process, but this type does not stick around when you break the news of pregnancy as they simply move on to the next young hottie in his “rotation”.
This is one of the major causes of the influx of runaway fathers. Men are always looking out for “wife” material but it seems women ignore and chase material things, which costs them a big deal at the end. As much as you are looking for a good life, never forget to build a solid foundation because you will not pin him down with a pregnancy.
In defending themselves, men have also cited that wrong women also easily get pregnant. Some relationships are dark ones, whereby you are never “paraded” in public or introduced to anyone as the girlfriend, but you get pregnant.
When you then break the pregnancy news, the man decides to go missing because what you had was “private” business. This also affects those women dating married men. Most of these men are out to have fun, not tangible evidence. The minute you talk of pregnancy, they only think of saving their faces and run away.
Men are afraid of three things namely snakes, prostate examinations, and, of course, news of unexpected pregnancy from a woman who is not their wife. It is news that makes men disappear often for good or simply brings the monster out of them.
The other bad issue is that the new generation is full of that breed of men who fear responsibility. Some young men deny responsibility for pregnancies they cause because they feel they are not ready to be dads. Fatherhood, they believe, ends one’s youth. They imagine that fatherhood, at their “tender age”, is tantamount to leaving a bash at 7 o’clock; when the fun has just begun! They fear becoming more responsible. This unplanned-for fatherhood, they argue, stops one from going out, partying, visiting buddies, and staying out till late. They feel fatherhood generally changes one’s social life, and sex life and brings a lot of dynamics into a relationship. But can’t they have protected sex?
Becoming a father without a plan has serious negative financial implications. It is an open secret that fathers are the sole breadwinners in most families. Men, including married ones, like children, panic at the news of an unplanned pregnancy, for it spells doom to their financial plans. Some men decide to run away because they argue that it was never their plan, but a trap.
Some relationships are said to be just for playing, but the woman will be in the dark and get serious alone. Reality only strikes when she announces her pregnancy and the man disappears. Ladies, next time before you spread your legs, make sure the man is ready and can stand you as the mother of his child.
Always remember to give support to those women who find themselves single once they fall pregnant. It does not mean the end of the world. As much as it is not an easy road, it could be the best thing to happen to you. The relationship was not the one for you and you can now go on to experience the joys of motherhood as a single parent. n Feedback:0714609859
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