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Rutendo Gwatidzo
Changing Perspectives
SETBACKS are an inevitable part of life and learning how to recover from them is such an essential skill.
Life in its vibrant and unpredictable dance, inevitably throws curveballs.
We stumble, fall and face moments that feel like they might define us in their difficulty but, what truly shapes us is not the fall but the ability to rise again — the art of bouncing back.
I experienced serious setbacks in many aspects of my life for the past almost one year of my life. The reason I am still moving forward today is the same secret I would like to share with every reader of this article today.
Resilience is not some kind of mystical trait reserved for a chosen few. It is a muscle that any one of can choose to cultivate and strengthen. You don’t need to avoid adversity, you need to navigate through it with courage and wisdom in order to emerge from it with renewed strength. Think of a spring, the more it is compressed, the greater its potential to leap back. We too, possess this inherent elasticity.
I know that someone is probably asking the question “how then do we nature this unbreakable spring within us?” It begins with a shift in perspective! Instead of viewing setbacks as defeats, we can choose to see them as temporary detours and valuable lessons. We need to understand that each challenge offers an opportunity for growth, uncovering inner resources that we never knew we possessed.
Bouncing back is not about solitary action, it’s about connecting with others, building a strong support network of friends, family or mentors who provide crucial anchor during turbulent times. Sharing our struggles and receiving encouragement can be the lifeline we need to keep moving forward. We also need to cultivate self-awareness in order to understand our emotional responses. Learn to acknowledge your pain without dwelling in it. Practice self-compassion in order to heal faster. The same way our physical wounds require attention, so too do our emotional wounds.
Additionally, the art of bouncing back requires a growth mindset. This means believing in our ability to learn and evolve even in the face of adversity. Focus on what you can control rather than dwelling on what you cannot. The path to resilience is not easy.
There will be moments of doubt and frustration but, remember the spring story. Though it may waver under pressure, its inherent nature is to return back to its original form, in most cases, stronger than before. Embrace the challenges, learn from the stumbles and trust in your capacity to not just survive, but, to thrive. The true art of bouncing back is not about recovery only, it is about becoming more resilient, wiser and ultimately more powerful version of yourself. No matter the number of defeats you may encounter, you must not be defeated. This powerful reminder encourages us to embrace our failures as stepping stones to success. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed at times. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend in a similar situation. This gentle approach can alleviate feelings of guilt or shame associated with setbacks.
To further enhance your resilience, develop a set of coping strategies. These can include mindfulness practices, physical exercise, or creative outlets. Engaging in activities that promote well-being can help you manage stress and maintain a positive outlook.
For instance, journalling can provide an outlet for processing emotions and reflections, while regular exercise releases endorphins that boost mood. As you cultivate resilience, remember to celebrate your progress. Acknowledge the small victories along the way, as they serve as reminders of your strength and ability to overcome challenges. Reflecting on past successes can provide motivation and inspiration during difficult times. Ultimately, by embracing the art of bouncing back, you empower yourself to navigate life’s challenges with grace and determination.
One of the challenges in many organisations is that of having highly emotional managers and employees who are quick to quit when the going gets tough. Most of the millenniums do not have what it takes to go through the different business cycles of an organization. A good number of them want to be associated with success and peak seasons only yet, they want big titles. They tend to forget that big titles are usually acquired during crisis times. Absence of tenacity, adversity and resilience as a skill is probably the reason why most of them hop from one job to another.
My encouragement to all employees and managers alike, good things do not come on silver platter, building an organisation that stands the test of time requires team effort, adversity and collaboration. If you want to be part of something great, then you have to possess the greatness skill yourself. Making a difference and living an impactful life is not for the faint hearted. Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and your tenacity levels will adjust accordingly. Do not move alone, though it’s faster, move together with others in order to go far.
Rutendo Gwatidzo is the managing Consultant at The HUB HR Consultancy — as a culture and change management specialist. She is also an author of Born to Fight and Breaking the Silence books. Contact details — 0714575805/ [email protected]/ Rutendo Gwatidzo Official FB public page
