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Laina Makuzha
LOVE by DESIGN
Something got me thinking of a statement I have heard many times in casual conversations: “Tikati garei-garei toyeuchidzana”.
That statement rings true when I see some folks taking the love they have for granted.
While of course there are some real issues and grievances to address in relationships, there are some complaints about spouses, that could be regarded as being minor, compared to the major blessings partners enjoy or take for granted in that union.
How about all the good things that this love brings to your life? This week I was inspired to explore this topic of appreciation as a way of reminding one another of its importance in keeping love truly beautiful.
In my view, counting one’s blessings is an everyday act of gratitude. In the relationships maze, you might find it is easy to get caught up in the daily grind and forget to appreciate the love that surrounds us. Question: When was the last time you took a moment to count your blessings for the love that you have? For those who are fortunate enough to have a partner, spouse, or loved one, it is essential to recognise the gift that they bring to your life.
Relationships are often portrayed as a source of stress, conflict, and disappointment the way we see it daily on social media. I have come across countless individuals who are not happy with the lack of appreciation from their partners.
I want to say the majority are men, but then again, quite a sizeable number are also women — Saka zvinenge zviri kwese zvekusawana appreciation. So it is really refreshing to see couples that have mastered the art of appreciation without being coerced, and without waiting for international commemorations or special dates such as birthdays and anniversaries. If you have love that you take for granted, remember that there are many people who wish they had what you have. There are countless individuals who long for meaningful connections, loving partners and supportive spouses.
As we reflect on our own relationships, let us make it a lifestyle of appreciating the love that we have and the blessings that come with it.
Appreciation is a powerful tool in that when we take the time to acknowledge and express gratitude for our partner’s efforts, it can strengthen the bond, foster a sense of connection, and promote a positive atmosphere in the relationship. Unfortunately, many tend to focus on what is lacking or what is not going well, rather than celebrating the good things.
Tips for appreciating your partner
- Be intentional in practicing gratitude, showing appreciation:
Take time each day to reflect on the things your partner does that you are grateful for. It could be something as simple as making you coffee in the morning or being a supportive listener. Express your gratitude through small gestures, such as writing a heartfelt note, surprise gifts, or thoughtful actions.
- Celebrate milestones:
Mark important dates, like anniversaries or birthdays, with meaningful celebrations that show your appreciation for your partner. Kukoshesa your partner’s achievements as well, such as academic advancement, is a great way of showing them you support them are proud of them.
- Listen actively:
When your partner shares their thoughts, feelings, or experiences, actively listen and show that you value their input.
- Support their passions:
Encourage and support your partner’s interests, even if they are not your own. It shows you care.
To fellow women
In conflict we may have heard the statement that calls men an unpleasant name or names, but let us recognise that our partners are individuals with their own strengths, weaknesses and efforts, just like anyone.
Rather than expecting them to make up for centuries of injustice towards all women, let us appreciate them for who they are (as an individual) and what they bring to our lives.
By so doing, we can draw the king out of them, and build stronger, more positive relationships that are based on the present not perpetually suffering for past or historical sins. Mutual respect, trust and appreciation can go a long way.
A strong marriage is after all built on a foundation that exudes those qualities and also including forgiveness and support among other empowering qualities.
By focusing on the positive aspects of relationships and expressing gratitude for partners, a more loving and supportive environment becomes imminent. Let us be deliberate in protecting the love that blesses our lives, also making sure to keep out any negative external influences.
As we reflect on our relationships and the love that we have, let appreciation be heartfelt, genuine and you will see how it can transform conversations and bring more rapport, joy and peace in the home.
The reflection also helps to train ourselves to resist branding every man or every woman with the same brush. Remember, appreciation of the uniqueness of an individual is a powerful tool that can transform our relationships and bring us closer to our loved ones.
So, if you do have that love in your life – take a moment today to actually take stock, count your blessings, express gratitude to your partner and celebrate the love that you share.
By so doing, munenge maita kuyeuchidzana of those things that are sometimes taken for granted; and you’ll be taking a worthwhile step towards strengthening your bond.
I look forward to hearing from you. What are the things you are thankful for, or that you realise you ought to be thankful for in your partner or in your marriage?
Sometimes just reflecting on it can bring a new perspective and more things to be thankful for, that you may have been overlooking. Let me know if you might need a Biblical perspective on gratitude and I will gladly share further.
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