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Yoh bantu bakithi! Relationships these days!!! One minute abantu are posting “couple goals,” next minute someone is crying while checking deleted WhatsApp messages. This week we have dangerous exes, bedroom betrayal and a husband whose chicken business is attracting more than customers. Fasten your seatbelts ngoba umjolo ufuna prayer and strong blood pressure tablets!
I HATE HIM, BUT I KEEP GOING BACK!
Dear Bra Binzy
I am a married woman with two lovely children and a loving angel of a husband. I had a high school sweetheart who hurt me very badly. He married my best friend.
In the bedroom he was the best that I have ever had.
I have always wished a terrible death to befall this guy. Recently, I met him again at a party. All the anger came back and I wished to commit murder.
However at the last minute my body betrayed me. All the things I had experienced with him came flooding back and we ended up having sex.
It has now become a regular thing. I crave him and seek him out. I curse myself and feel bad afterwards but I cannot help myself. I cannot even describe the things he does to me.
This is now affecting my marriage which was peaceful and happy. Help me before I destroy one of the real good things that has happened for me in my life.
— Confused
BRA BINZY RESPONDS
Sisi, this is not love anymore. This is emotional witchcraft mixed with nostalgia.
That man hurt you years ago and instead of healing properly, you buried the pain under marriage and family life.
Now the old feelings have returned wearing temptation perfume.
The problem is not bedroom chemistry. The problem is unfinished emotional business. Your ex knows exactly which buttons to press and every time you see him, you become that vulnerable high school girl again.
But listen carefully. Exciting sex alone cannot build a peaceful future. Your husband gives you stability, love and peace of mind. Those things are rare these days.
Cut contact immediately before your marriage explodes. Delete the number. Avoid places where he will be. Stop feeding fantasy because affairs usually end with tears and humiliation.
Do not destroy your own peaceful home over temporary madness below the waistline.
I TRAPPED MY GIRLFRIEND, NOW I WANT OUT!
Dear Bra Binzy
I fell in love with a virgin. When we started having sex she always insisted on a condom. She said she loved me and it was for my own protection.
When I asked her to marry me she said she was not ready.
Then I did a terrible thing. I would remove the condom when she was not looking.
When she fell pregnant as I had planned, she cried the whole night asking me how it could happen since we were using protection.
Then she dropped a bombshell. She told me she could not commit to me even though she loved me dearly because she was born with HIV.
She said we should go for testing because I was the only person she had ever slept with.
We did the first test last week and I came out negative but they said I could be in the window period.
The problem is that I now hate this girl. I cannot see myself marrying her after she kept such important from me.
Help me to break up with her.
— Disappointed
BRA BINZY RESPONDS
Eish mfowethu… this relationship has enough drama for three seasons on Netflix.
What you did was wrong. You secretly removed protection because you wanted to trap someone with pregnancy. A child is not handcuffs for marriage.
At the same time, she also made a serious mistake by hiding such important information from you. Relationships cannot survive where people are hiding life-changing secrets.
Right now focus on your health first. Follow the testing process properly and stop panicking before doctors finish their assessments. Remember, she insisted on protection because she was trying to protect you.
If trust is completely gone, leave respectfully. No insults or disappearing acts. There is now a child involved and responsibility does not vanish because emotions changed.
Both of you damaged trust in different ways. Learn from this before life teaches you harsher lessons.
MY HUSBAND’S CHICKEN BUSINESS IS ATTRACTING WOMEN!”
Dear Bra Binzy
My husband started a broiler chicken business after losing his job last year. At first I supported him because times are hard.
Now women from the neighbourhood are always coming to buy chickens wearing tiny clothes and acting too friendly.
One calls him “my supplier” and sends laughing emojis late at night.
Last week I checked his phone and discovered heavy flirting. He says it is just customer care.
Bra Binzy, customer care does not include heart emojis and messages saying “I miss your smile.” Help me before I cook all the broilers in anger.
— Worried
BRA BINZY RESPONDS
Hahaha sisi, these chickens are bringing more drama than profit!
Your husband is enjoying the female attention too much. A man who loses a job and suddenly starts getting attention from women can become drunk on validation very quickly.
But calm down before you turn the broilers into innocent victims.
Sit him down properly and explain what is disrespecting your marriage. Married men must know the difference between marketing and behaving like a flirtatious DJ on radio.
And your husband must remember this: customers are buying chickens, not romance packages.
If he continues entertaining emotional nonsense from these women, one day he will lose both the business and his marriage.
Bantu bakithi, remember this: temptation does not always arrive looking dangerous. Sometimes it arrives smiling, buying broilers and sending emojis!
BRA BINZY FINAL WORD
Love without honesty is like driving a car without brakes, exciting for a few minutes but dangerous in the long run.
Some people are destroying good relationships because of temptation, secrets and selfish decisions made in moments of weakness.
Before you cheat, manipulate or hide important truths, ask yourself one question: “Am I ready for the pain that will come after this?”
Because umjolo always collects its debts, sometimes with interest!
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