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Laina Makuzha
LOVE by DESIGN
THE holiday season is well underway, and as always, it is abuzz with weddings.
For some, this time of year is simply a break from work — a chance to rest, reboot and recharge. For others, it is a season of faith, a time to celebrate the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ with gratitude and reverence. And for many, it is about winding down, reflecting on the trials and triumphs of the year gone by, while looking ahead with anticipation to a brand new year filled with fresh hope.
In the midst of all this festivity, weddings stand out as both joyous and deeply meaningful. They are not just social gatherings or cultural milestones; they are sacred covenants, moments where love, faith, and commitment converge. As we celebrate couples preparing to say “I do,” this week we share some reminders and pointers for happier preparation. We do know that marriage is more than an event but a lifelong journey ordained by God.
Where pressure emanates from
Expectations vs reality: Couples often feel pressure to meet cultural or family standards.
Financial strain: Costs can escalate quickly, leaving couples stressed before the vows are even exchanged.
Emotional weight: The desire to please everyone can overshadow the joy of the moment.
Spiritual readiness: Many focus on the event but forget the covenant, which is far more important.
The good news? We can take the pressure off by remembering that the wedding is a celebration, not a performance. Simplify where you can, focus on what truly matters, and keep your eyes on the bigger picture: the life you are building together.
Preparing as bride and groom
Marriage requires more than choosing outfits or venues. It calls for ‘heart work’, prayer, and intentional growth. Many young couples make the mistake of treating marriage lightly, forgetting its sacred significance. Before saying “I do,” pause to ask: Why are we getting married in the first place?
This question anchors your union in purpose, not just passion. It reminds us that marriage is not about ‘fixing’ or ‘moulding’ our partner but about becoming the best version of ourselves to serve, love, and grow with them.
Some areas to work on before marriage
— Clarify your purpose for marriage
Know why you are entering this covenant. Is it companionship, shared vision, or simply pressure? Purpose sustains when emotions fade.
Repent and cleanse spiritually
— Past mistakes and unresolved issues can weigh down a marriage. Take time for prayer, consecration, and cleansing. Invite God to heal and prepare your hearts.
Commit to seriousness, not games
— Marriage is not a playground. Be intentional about your words, actions, and promises. Immaturity and casual attitudes can destroy trust.
Work on yourself, not your partner
— Many think marriage is about getting the other person to be exactly what they want them to be. The truth? We can only effectively work on ourselves. Grow in patience, forgiveness, communication, and humility.
Embrace true commitment
— Commitment means staying when it is hard, loving when it is inconvenient, and choosing each other daily. It is not about convenience—it is about covenant.
When family expectations clash
— One of the most common challenges in wedding preparations is navigating family expectations. Parents and relatives often have strong opinions about how things should be done. Sometimes, these desires do not align with the couple’s vision.
Here are faith-based ways to handle it:
Anchor your decisions in God’s Will
“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans” (Proverbs 16:3). When God is at the centre, peace follows.
Communicate with love and respect
— Even when you disagree, honour your parents and relatives by listening and speaking respectfully. Firmly explain your convictions, and assure them that your choices are not rebellion but alignment with your God-given vision.
Set boundaries with grace
— If relatives threaten to boycott or disrupt, remember that your marriage covenant is between you, your partner, and God. Stand firm in love. No manipulation, it must not steal your joy.
Fireproof your wedding with prayer
— Cover your union in prayer daily. Pray for unity, protection, and favour. Ask God for his divine purpose to prevail. Ask Him to silence confusion and bring harmony. I can share prayer points for weddings and marriage, so you are welcome to reach out in need.
Marriage is not a mockery
Today’s culture often suggests we can do whatever we want — even within marriage. But Scripture reminds us: “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked. Whatever one sows, that will he also reap” (Galatians 6:7).
Marriage should be honoured by all (Hebrews 13:4). It is not sustained by competition or tit-for-tat attitudes but by covenant love. God is a God of order (1 Corinthians 14:33), and when we honour Him, He blesses us.
The world may change, but God remains the same. His Word endures forever. If we sow seeds of love, respect, and faithfulness, we will reap blessings. If we sow selfishness and mockery, we will reap destruction. This is not to scare anyone,but rather a reminder to us all.
Family harmony
To the parents and relatives of the bride and groom: your role in this season is vital. The greatest gift you can give the couple is your support — helping them enjoy a stress‑free wedding and step confidently into an empowered marriage. Remember, this day belongs to them. Resist the temptation to take centre stage or stir unnecessary drama veduwee, before or during the celebration. We have seen this in some weddings,and the pain and confusion it causes.
Instead, choose to be a source of peace, encouragement, and unity. If you find yourself struggling with expectations or emotions, do not hesitate to reach out — there are qualified experts who specialise in fostering harmony within families. A wedding is most beautiful when it reflects love, respect, and togetherness, and your support would go a long way in ensuring that.
To every bride-to-be and groom-to-be: celebrate this season! It is sacred, exciting, and full of promise. Take the pressure off by focusing less on the event and more on the life you are building. Marriage is a gift, a calling, and a covenant. Walk into it with joy, reverence, and readiness.
I would so love to hear from you! What has preparing for marriage taught you? How did you balance family expectations with your own desires? What lessons, challenges, or joys have you experienced on the journey to the altar? Share your insights — we would love to celebrate as well as impact someone who may need those insights. Send your comments in the section below, or:
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