When sexy means exposing skin: How much is too much?

LAST week’s topic seemed to have fascinated a lot of people, judging from the feedback I received, with most people agreeing with me.
Anyway there was one lady that responded, positively of course but one thing that caught my eye and attention was her profile picture on Whatsapp. (Yes, sometimes when I don’t have anything better to do I view people’s pictures on Whatsapp. LOL!)

So in the picture, which I assume was hers, the lass revealed a little too much for eye pleasure — they call it eye candy, yes.

Anyway her boobs (breasts) were practically spilling out of her top. That’s what inspired this week’s topic — When showing some skin becomes too much.

Leaving a little bit to the imagination is of course acceptable but leaving nothing to the imagination is another story.
It’s the phrase most ladies grew up being told by their mothers, since catching a glimpse of movie stars splashed all over the TV and magazines and had an overwhelming urge to mirror their style.

I know most people thought it was a desperate attempt by mothers or parents rather to keep ladies from exposing some of their body parts such as the upper thigh and maybe the shoulders.

Why is it that when ladies want to look sexy, their first instinct is to wear something shorter, tighter or with a lower-cut neckline?

The words “covering up” don’t really have that alluring ring to them. So instead, women opt to show a bit more skin.
As a teen I absolutely found nothing wrong with ladies showing skin, I actually would salivate in glee at the glimpse of some skin. Those teen years . . . some of the best years of my life, yes I was young and somewhat a little deviant.

I know you must be cracking up as you read this but that’s just how young boys are. Nonetheless when I came of age (that is when I grew out of my “perverted” teen years and became an adult) I looked back and asked myself a question: Was I insane and my parents right? Indeed they were. I know of many girls that would cut their uniforms so that they would become “miniskirts” at school — (I can just imagine how much of a torrid time the male teachers had in class looking at those not so innocent girl’s thighs).

Many ladies may attest to fighting (verbally) with their moms over wearing clothes that were just a little bit too revealing.

The classic mother-daughter outing was going shopping then coming home in a screaming match because the young girl would always want to dress in something that was not appropriate.

I know some ladies who are mothers now cringe to think of how ridiculously insane they were to want to wear revealing clothes.

It’s not about how much skin you show, but rather how you cleverly accentuate your most appealing features.
So who can get away with revealing a little too much, you may ask? If you are a model on the ramp I guess you just might pull it off, wearing a bathing suit of course.

There are also the ladies that don’t have very appealing bodies but you would find them trying to show some skin. So is it possible to dress up and not reveal too much?

In fact, it is possible to dress up without wearing something overly revealing. I sought out some advice of some elderly ladies of course, call me biased but they really have some class in them. They shared some info on how to look sexy without showing off all the goods.

“Show some cleavage but not your entire breasts, leave a little room for some imagination and perk up some confidence from the goggles from the men, and the green eyed women of course.

“If you want to show some thigh wear a dress with a slit that hovers just above the thigh, trust me you will get people staring,” said a lady who goes by the name Tsitsi.

She added: “The lower halves of our bodies have some seriously sexy attributes. Butts and thighs are probably the first things that come to mind when you think sex appeal, but don’t forget about your feet and ankles. In the spirit of ‘less is more,’ try trading in a pair of super-short shorts for a pair of cuffed jeans.

“Also if you want to show some tummy make sure you have a perfect flat tummy. No one wants to see your flab jiggling about, it’s just disgusting and disturbing.”

So as the weather gets warmer and the layers start to shed, keep it cool, elegant and classy.
“Classy is when a woman has everything to flaunt, but chooses not to show it.”

I humbly apologise to the ladies for being hard but it has to be said.

Feedback
What’s up Peter, I was reading your last week’s article. Some of the youths dress awkward and terrible. The SA dressing is becoming popular in Zim, the likes of Casper, Ricky Ricky, K O. I prefer that type of dress code rather than US coz I am African. — 0716 711 802

Hey keep on doing your job you know. — 0776229334
Peter thank you for the article, I honestly am appalled when I see boys don dress tops like ladies! One might think such behaviour falls on the side of having gay tendencies, God forbid! Thanks. — Dr Lin
Yes I agree with what you brought in last week’s article . . . teenage boys now dress ridiculous and come to think of it some girls are fascinated by that. I don’t believe that someone in their right state of mind would appreciate it when men dress like women. — 0733924293

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