adminIN the Saturday Leisure section of Chronicle March 1, I read a very interesting article by Nqobile Tshili “Artificial hips: Women under pressure to impress.”
The article was all about how some of our womenfolk have taken to wearing artificial hips and bums to appear “curvy.” The intro of this article was “Women who use artificial hips and bums to appear ‘curvy’ have very low self-esteem and should not expect to attract real men…” Nothing is more than this truth.
The way things are going in terms women and beauty is very sad. We are seeing things that we never dreamt we would ever see, all in the name of beauty and fashion. Why does a woman dress up? I personally thought women dress up to look smart and feel good about themselves. Women dress up for self-respect and the respect of the next person. Women dress up to feel confident about themselves and in good dress they carry themselves around with that feeling that they are complete, with that aura of self confidence and ready to conquer the world, to conquer the workplace in that nice attire.
Now these women with hanging hips and buttocks, what is the motive behind this drama? Nakai Nengomasha summed it up well in the article I have referred to. Nengomasha said “…women are under pressure and they do extreme things just to impress men…women should not objectify themselves. They are not sex objects.”
The hanging hips and buttocks are for sex appeal. They attract the men who don’t care about the personality of the woman but are only after sex. I always wonder when these ladies go around with these things hanging, what would be going on in their minds when you know very well in your heart that the things the world is thinking is your body are actually “pillows?” Such audacity is witchcraft. I shudder to think of the embarrassment when a man who has been impressed by the “curves” suddenly realises that they are not curves after all, it is just “underwear”.
I am not in any way a beauty therapist but I want to say that I have seen very beautiful women without even a single thing hanging on their bodies. I think the more the things hanging on a woman’s body for me, the uglier. The more the things hanging on the woman’s body the more inadequacies on her body she has to cover up.
Hair is hanging, eye lashes are hanging, eye brows removed, hips hanging, buttocks hanging, nails hanging, the mouth is red and eyes are blue, sengu doli phela lo/chatova chimudhori ka ichi.
Make up is good; as long as it is done moderately. Too much of it spoils the “pot. The human being in the woman is lost. This is why some marriages never survive the very first year because the woman the man is now seeing every morning, before the make-up is not the “beautiful woman” he thought he had met. My simple arithmetic tells me that, the more naturally beautiful a woman is, the less the need for this excessive make-up and the uglier the more the need for the excessive make-up.
I think if it’s all about impressing each other, man or woman, the person is what is inside the clothing not the clothing. The person is not the hips, the person is not the excessive make-up, and it’s what is beyond the make-up.
Some ladies really punish themselves in the name of beauty. My heart bleeds and there are times I wish I could help when I see a woman in the Central Business District in very high heeled shoes, she can hardly walk. She is going down to Egodini terminus and she is now walking like a zombie, the heels are too high for her to walk. Some of the heels were designed for short distances. Walking ten metres and a person is in a car. They were not designed to walk from Egodini to Centrary Park — it’s not possible. I have seen some ladies come down from the terminus in flat shoes and when they enter the workplace, they change into high heeled shoes and they look good and conduct their business neatly dressed in the good shoes maintaining the organisations’ corporate image. Come 5PM, knock off time; they again wear their flat shoes to the terminus. This is commendable than walking like Jason from the horror movie Friday The 13th.
The only problem with this is carrying a lot of shoes in one’s hand bag. Thus is a bit challenging because I am reliably informed that some carry even two pairs, the office pair and the pair to wear when going for lunch and of course the pair to wear when walking down to the terminus. There is need to look good at the workplace as I said, to maintain the organisation’s good corporate image. We don’t want ladies who wear tennis shoes in the office or some of these flat shoes they wear in countries prone to flooding. This is not acceptable.
Some of this make-up is also age-appropriate. I have seen grannies in much “stretched” tights. I am not exaggerating. Ladies who are slowly getting wrinkled in tights that are very revealing. Now when we the mothers can’t dress up properly what do we want our daughters to do? Some people don’t want to get old, but it’s nature we are all going the same way. These old ladies would dress like teenagers and in very big dark sun glasses attract the unsuspecting young man, who they go around boasting about among their friends saying, they have a “Ben 10” and the lady is in the fifties. For a young man in their 20s to see the naked body of a woman over 50 is child abuse. All this happens because these dangerous ladies hide behind excessive make-up and they will be dangling a carrot — money. So just a word to these adventurous young men, there is no beauty behind the over-done make-up, there is no beauty behind the hanging hips, these women are your mothers. You find some ladies, some elderly going round town pulling down their skirt every minute because suddenly they realise it’s too short.
The mini-skirt is not elastic; it will not suddenly cover you. What were you thinking when you left home in that short skirt which you are now pulling down to the point of almost tearing it? There is a need also to look at our bodies and dress what our bodies allow us to dress decently in. Some of these legs being paraded in town in short skirts are very ugly indeed; they actually need to be covered as much as possible.
Just a concluding word for our dear ladies. Women must look beautiful, thus God’s creation. Even if we look at the animal world, the females are more attractive/beautiful than males. By the way we are also animals, the only difference is that we are a higher-order animal. So there is no debate about the need for women to look beautiful, the debate comes in the HOW part? Let us not demean ourselves by having things hanging all over our bodies. As earlier indicated, genuine ladies dress to feel good about themselves and this is very proper and they wear make-up moderately. I personally don’t want to hang around women who make no attempt to look female-women who look like men. If we hang hips and bums on our bodies we become men’s sex objects, which is not what we are, unless if thus what one wants to be.
I will end on a lighter note on make-up. This other gentleman was preparing to rest with his new found lady friend, when the friend removed her wig, removed her artificial teeth, artificial nails fell off, removed her artificial hand and artificial leg revealing the hanging hips and bums, the man remarked to himself, “Nhai mhai, ko munhu zvowopera ndakatarisa”.
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