You attract what you are

DO you think you are a good person? If you think you are, you probably don’t understand why life beats you down sometimes, why you go through so much. Aren’t good people supposed to be rewarded with good life? It seems good and bad people go through all kinds of experiences. But how do we define good and bad, according to whose standards?

One of the many laws of the universe, the law of attraction, is based on the belief that positive or negative thoughts bring positive or negative experiences into a person’s life. While this is described as pseudoscience many texts that encourage positivity and indeed many religions seem to have roots in the law of attraction.

What makes up a person is their character which stems from their behaviour, which is developed from habits that are developed from actions that would have started off as a thought, hence the assertion that a person attracts what they are.

What happens, according to the law of attraction, is that what we think about is what we are lining up as our future experiences. If you wake up late and think it’s going to be a bad day, it will turn out that way for you until you stop the negative thoughts and turn to positive ones. The intensity of which you think of something also determines the intensity of the experience you will have.

If we subscribed to that, we would all start minding our thoughts. While it may be hard to watch our thoughts, we could start with watching our words and emotions as those show us the outcome of what we are thinking of. There is no way you can react angrily when you are harbouring good thoughts in your mind.

All aspects of our lives respond to that law and if we could take advantage of it, there would be less suicides, mental health challenges, fights and a lot of other negative things happening around us. The problem we have as humans is that we think we can fix things by reacting in the negative way. As we all know such reactions seldom end in the positive hence the encouragement to stick to positive thoughts.

A neighbour of mine often chats with me as I wash my car and the conversation is almost always the same. He does not understand why he gets the short end of the stick when it comes to relationships.

So, he complains and “confides” in whoever cares to listen that he is very unlucky in love and he always ends up with a woman who is not well behaved.

I asked him what qualities he expects from a woman he’s courting and he gave me a list of characteristics that typically most men would like. My response to him was that he would need to have those qualities first and he didn’t take kindly to that.

You would notice that such a person may get in and out of relationships and complain of not getting a good partner, yet the person they should be fixing is themselves. They may not be all that bad but if they have bad thoughts, they will attract bad experiences in their lives.

We all wish to have good experiences but do you think you deserve them? Some of us secretly do not think that we deserve good things. Some people were brought up and socialised to believe that they will never amount to anything and they believed it. Others believe that if they get a mediocre life, they would be okay because they have decided that they will not be exceptional.

Guess what, you are the one who sets the limits to how far you will go in life. You could be holding yourself back without even realising it. People who are successful simply believe that they can do anything and we watch them do exactly that.

If you are not your own cheerleader chances are that you will never win. You are the one who is supposed to show people what you want to do with your life, not listen to people doubting your capabilities and deciding what you can and cannot do.

Start to feel the way you want to be and watch your experiences follow you. Even your body follows the way you feel.

I was listening to someone narrating how they recovered from an illness recently and I made a realisation that the person made a decision to feel strong before they attempted to move around and their body obeyed.

The process of recovery was thought of and felt before any action was taken and when action was finally taken, the task was not so hard. How about we start thinking our way to happiness, good health, good relationships, success and everything in between?

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