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I hope you all enjoying the winter season and its bedroom benefits. Yes, whatever just crossed your mind is what I am talking about! Following last week’s column on the existence of big Orgasm (O) scammers, the truth is that it can be achieved by both parties.
One thing I should set straight from the beginning is the issue of women having fewer chances of reaching the big O compared to men. This is just based on cultural gaps and not biological ones. The Big O is equally important to both parties, not only to men as many have been made to believe.
If it is all about men, then it means the adult game is not a fair game. Why should one gender be able to reach the Big O and the other be left hanging? Let there be fairness, women also need to enjoy all the way. Doggie-style is one of the best O-inducing positions for women.
It stimulates the G-spot and makes one get lost in her world. Do not stick to the same position all the time. Switch up your sex positions, experimenting with different positions and stimulating other areas of your body during a hook-up can add variety and depth to your pleasure, ultimately making for an all-timer of a Big O.
There are those types of women who avoid playing the game, they always come up with excuses of having a headache. All she needs is a Big O as it can relieve pain. The mechanism is largely due to the body’s release of a chemical called oxytocin during orgasm. Oxytocin facilitates bonding, relaxation, and other positive emotional states.
Some women have also been fooled by being told that condom use affects the Big O quality. Women are equally likely to experience Big O with or without a condom, dispelling myths that condoms do not make for good sex. In fact, condoms may help a couple spend more time playing, as a man doesn’t have to “pull out” quickly if he’s worried about “cuming” too soon.
Get to know your body. Partnered sex is wonderful in its own right, but taking time to learn what you like all on your own can help you know what feels best to you. Getting to know your own body and the type of pressure and friction that feels good, really sets a template for knowing how to arouse yourself and reach Big O as well.
There must be equality and it’s not a one-sided game. If you are not sure what gets you going or your existing spank bank feels a little stale, give something new a shot! Do not skip foreplay. Foreplay primes your body to have the most toe-curling possible Big O later on.
Take time to make out, pay attention to your breasts or wherever else you like to be touched and otherwise heat things before you jump to the main event, whatever it may be. Making it a point to get as turned on as possible gives your body a chance to maximise feel-good bodily processes that happen in response to adult games like extra blood flow that increases sensitivity and muscular tension that makes it all the more likely you will feel a huge sense of release during your Big O.
Never be ashamed to ask for what you want. Sometimes, it is easy to prioritise someone else’s pleasure over your own sexual arousal. If that sounds like you, try focusing on what makes you feel good in bed, rather than how you look or whether your partner is enjoying themselves. If you are in bed with someone, chances are they want to make you feel good (including having a great Big O).
Give them the information they might need to help them get you there. You can also gently redirect them if something isn’t working for you by saying something like, I would love it if you touched me like XYZ right now, can we try that?
Always play near the powerhouse of the orgasm. It is packed with nerve endings that respond hugely to touch and attention, meaning that they can help you unlock the orgasm of your wildest dreams. Think of the clitoris as the kindling in the campfire that gets the blaze going. Whatever it is that you like, make sure either you or your partner incorporates that technique before or during sex. You can have your partner play with your clit while they are penetrating you with the manhood.
The G-spot is a region of spongy tissue inside your body along the front vaginal wall, and paying attention to it can feel good for some people. Combining clitoral stimulation with G-spot stimulation can give you the feeling of a blended Big O. When you get to the finish line, all parties must have genuinely enjoyed and not faked to have reached the Big O.
There is a pretty common myth that you can always tell whether someone reached Big O or not. But really, the best way to get the answer is to ask. All people experience the Big O in different ways and they can feel different at different times. So there’s no reason to feel freaked out about asking if your partner reached Big O.
Asking shows that you care about making your partner feel good, which is super important when it comes to having good sex. Communicating about it, before, during, and after is a MUST!
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