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ONE thing we definitely can settle on without debate is that heartbreaks and humans are inseparable. The bond seems to stretch and wind more in circular ticking fashion than the hands of time.
In most cases, it can be argued that humans seem to have an insatiable appetite for disappointments, where they lack life amounts to being detected or premeditated.
As you are still wondering what I am going on about, it is imperative at this point to know that most heartbreaks are simply triggered by a bad attitude.
Attitude plays an integral role in shaping or even triggering the downfall of some of the most promising relationships. It would be pointless to go on about bad attitude that humans tend to showcase, especially those in relationships, without giving credence to those who have good attitude that have contributed immensely to their being and societal standing. That is another fodder for another week.
For this week, drawing inspiration from many broken hearts I would rather focus on a bossy attitude. Wherever the demeanor of such an attitude manifests itself there is nothing that can stand in its path, let alone fragile hearts.
A bossy attitude is deeply entwined with pride to the extent that not even a surgical operation can separate the two. Whenever pride and bossy attitude work hand in glove the results are predictable to say the least. Thus a bossy attitude is the worst nightmare of every relationship, especially for married couples. But where does such an attitude come from considering that couples start off from a good understanding? If you are following or picking up any similar traits, I encourage you to buckle up and continue reading!
Once someone in a relationship starts to feel like he/she is doing more than the other half that’s when a bossy attitude finds its fertility and exhibits its destructive petals. The notion that “I am the main contributor” has always been a set back.
It becomes a point of reasoning in whatever situation or hurdle that a couple finds itself in. The partner possessed with a bossy attitude demon always has an unnerving tendency of dictating the direction of a relationship. Sadly the direction leads to the demise of the relationship and the bearing on the children can even lead to post traumatic stress.
Arguably, women, given their desire to be in charge in relationships always bear the worst form of bossy attitudes and in the process faced untold consequences. Once women are in better positions than their spouses they start to exhibit a controlling trait, distanced from wife or even mother: history is rich with how such endeavours quickly go down the drain.
Men also have the bossy attitude approach which in most cases has nothing to do with logic, but simple inspired by the audacity of being a MAN. Such men are never far from raising their hands to their partner. As bossy as they are, they tend to degrade, humiliate and show suffocating levels of disrespect to their partners. Just like drug addiction, a bossy attitude starts at a small pace, the craving grows, the desire to feed the attitude also grows and can only be quenched by subjecting the other half to a narrow humiliating path.
This in every regard is contrary to the traits of a thriving relationship where common reason and mutual understanding is the order of the day. As such a bossy attitude, whenever it manifests itself, like an atomic bomb, there is nothing left to showcase that a relationship ever existed.
Whenever bossy attitudes thrives, respect for the other partner becomes a scarce commodity leading to disputes which many know, no other way to solve them, than simple walking away. Bossy attitudes also are the trigger that constantly unleashes domestic violence in many homes.
It is never too late to change for the best. Most people who exhibit such traits of being bossy suffer from a serious inferiority complex which they shield by building a huge cocoon of an indestructible attitude without regards to their partner.
I have realised that there are some people who end up thinking that they were cursed because of a series of failed relationships, but all what will be costing them is the , “I am the BOSS” attitude. This devious attitude has never been friends with humanity and it just pushes one to his/her downfall!
Of all the home remedies, humility is the best. Your spirit and attitude in a relationship will make it or break it.
Your children will pick up on the kind of spirit that you have in your heart. Your attitude sends a message that permeates the entire home atmosphere.
If you possess a gentle spirit it will be felt among the family, but if your spirit and character is overriding, argumentative and controlling then that spirit will begin to permeate the children in the family and create an atmosphere of tension and turmoil instead of love and stability.
Bossy women and men have done more to wreck relationships more than anything else. No normal person wants a dictator in his/her life. Love is swett where there is freedom!
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