Campus Reflections: How students miss out on promises offered

Latwell Nyangu Youth Interactive Writer

Time and opportunity come to everyone.

No parent would be happy about their child’s failure. But sometimes we can’t control what happens in life.

What we sometimes want is not what will happen in the end.

Life is full of uncertainties, and often what we want or hope for does not match the outcome.

This emotion reflects the complex nature of human desires and the unpredictability of life events.

Human desires are deeply rooted in emotions, aspirations, and personal values.

Individuals often desire certain outcomes based on their perceptions, experiences, and understanding of the situation.

However, reality is shaped by many factors, including the external environment, the actions of others, and unexpected events.

In the end, what you want may not always come true as expected.

Promises between parents and children are often made with good intentions, but depending on the circumstances, such promises may not be fulfilled.

Parent-child promises may not be kept due to unforeseen events or changes in priorities.

This can cause feelings of disappointment, resentment, and betrayal on both sides.

And most of the time, our parents expect the best from us and make some promises that put us in a better position to achieve that.

Some of the students are at college just because their parents have promised them something while some are at college by default.

It is also clear that some students are at college due to peer pressure as well as being at college because of passion.

Above, some students are at college so that they can change where they are coming from.

This week, I am descending on how students have missed out on the promises parents offered them.

From what I see some parents believe in providing financial incentives to motivate their children to excel in their studies, while others may emphasize the intrinsic value of education without monetary rewards.

Some are offered cars, and houses while others are offered financial support for their academic pursuit to whatever level they want.

Parents often seek ways to encourage their children to strive for excellence in their educational pursuits. Financial incentives, such as monetary rewards for good grades or successful completion of college courses, are one approach some parents consider to motivate their children.

But despite all these promises, students still blow the chances due to behaviours, negligence, and lack of concentration.

Sadly, some students end up in prison, some end up being stray while some end up in drug abuse scandals.

Such cases are a letdown and disappointment to parents.

Students miss out on what parents have promised.

Many times, students have failed their modules, some have failed to graduate, some have dropped out of college, some don’t write assignments and some have not achieved their targets.

In life, time and opportunities are two crucial factors that impact students.

Time is a constant force that affects every student, regardless of their background, status, or circumstances.

It is an equalizer that treats everyone the same, as each person has the same 24 hours in a day. Opportunities, on the other hand, present themselves to people in various forms and at different times.

Some students may encounter abundant opportunities, while others may face limited options. However, the way individuals utilize their time and seize the opportunities presented to them ultimately shapes their lives.

While, we may blame our parents for making broken promises, this week I am taking a swipe at students who have failed to take the opportunities offered to us by our parents.

Broken promises from parents can have a significant impact on the parent-child relationship. When parents fail to fulfill their promises, it can lead to feelings of disappointment, betrayal, and mistrust in children.

This can result in strained relationships and emotional distress for the children. Additionally, broken promises may also affect the way children perceive their parents’ reliability and integrity.

But when parents promise something in exchange for their child passing a test or achieving a goal, it is often a form of motivation or incentive.

This practice is rooted in the belief that offering a reward can encourage the child to work harder and strive for success.

It can also be a way for parents to show support and encouragement for their child’s efforts.

Sadly, many students have let down their parents who have promised them big.

It’s natural for individuals to feel that they have let down their parents at some point in their lives.

The feeling of letting down one’s parents can arise from different circumstances.

Some are linked to personal choices, academic or career struggles, conflicts within the family, or other life challenges.

Many students have not lived up to their parents’ expectations or have caused them disappointment.

It’s important to understand the impact of unfulfilled promises on the parent-child relationship and how to navigate these challenges.

The practice of rewarding children for academic achievements is a personal decision that varies among families.

Motivation plays a crucial role in a student’s academic performance.

While the intention behind promising rewards for success may be positive, parents need to consider the potential impact on their child’s motivation and mindset.

Children who become accustomed to receiving rewards for every achievement may come to expect external validation for their efforts, which can hinder their ability to develop a strong sense of self-motivation.

Critics argue that it may inadvertently communicate that the value of learning and personal growth is tied solely to external rewards rather than the inherent satisfaction of learning and growing.

When a parent fails to keep their word, it can send the message that the child’s needs and desires are not important.

This can lead to feelings of rejection and inadequacy, impacting the child’s self-esteem.

But what about if a student fails to meet the demands of a promise?

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