adminit’s no fun at all. None.
When we close down around our SELVES we weaken the power of our personality, we become more introverted, and we reduce our dynamism. We become the greatest thief of our own potential. This is an INJUSTICE that we must become aware of and stop. How do we do this to ourselves?
I don’t have all the answers, far from it; though let me share with you this one thing.
Here’s what sometimes happens.
(1) Person gets beat up a bit in their past
(2) Fear and the need to protect oneself and survive sets in
(3) An inward self focus is developed to protect oneself
In his classic book, “Stay Alive All Your Life”, Dr Normal Vincent Peale says: “One way to have that quality of life (great, joyful, and enthusiastic life) is to get outside yourself. People who live within themselves lose that vital something which stimulates verve and excitement. As a matter of fact, many are actually ill as a result of nothing but self centeredness.
When you lose yourself, letting your personality flow outward, and your life takes on creative joy and even health. Half dead, listless, desultory people everywhere could find the vital life they really want by the very simple expedient of practicing self forgetfulness.”
Few pages later
“Then, when your interest and appreciation are widened to include the whole great world, life becomes even more fascinating. Interest, projected outside you, has the power to force even hardship, suffering, and pain into the background. The more vital your interest, in others and in the world, the more certainly you can live triumphantly over your own difficulties.
Here’s one more
“In exact proportion as you give joy you will receive joy. It is a law of exact reciprocity. Joy increases as you give it, and diminishes as you try to keep it for yourself. Actually, unless you give it you will ultimately lose it. In giving it you will accumulate a deposit of joy greater than you ever believed possible.”
Powerful
Lose yourself to find yourself. Be someone for somebody. When we’re preoccupied with SELF, fear, doubt, and worry usually aren’t far behind it.
Release the power in your personality. Find greater meaning in your life. Add 1 percent more of the best-you-into your life today.
Nyaradzo Mavindidze, a motivational speaker, is the Managing Consultant at Avodah Consultants, which specialises in soft skills training and coaching. For feedback, email [email protected]
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