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THE family unit is currently facing one of its greatest attacks in history.
More than ever before, the family needs the help of God to overcome the troubles that are stalking the institution of marriage. We have sought help from man — psychiatrists, traditional and political leaders, etcetera, only to find out that that kind of help is grossly inadequate.
Man is still looking all around searching for lasting solutions to the problems encountered in marriage. But the Psalmist shows us the secret for an enduring solution:
“Give us help from trouble: for vain is the help of man.” Psalm 60:11.
God’s help is always available to us. God’s help can reach you, no matter in what area of family life you desire it. I believe it is coming your way right now.
The degree of problems you have experienced in your marriage notwithstanding, God’s help is actually all you need. Although it is your responsibility to build your home, the ultimate builder is God (Hebrews 3:4). Whatever is built outside Him has no future. Whatever was strong enough to make God leave His throne in heaven must have been important.
“He took” the rib because something very important was on the way for man. Rather than taking the rib from Adam’s side, God could have simply commanded the rib to come out. But He didn’t, showing how dear the marriage institution is to God. Therefore, it should be precious to you and me as well.
Not only did God take the rib from Adam’s side, He “made” a woman out of it and “brought” her to Adam. These are action words that connote God’s physical involvement in establishing marriage. God showed His interest in marriage by personally fashioning the woman and delivering her to her husband. It is, therefore, false to assume that the union of a man and a woman in marriage is man’s idea, or a cultural and traditional affair.
Therefore, to enjoy God’s best in your marriage, you must make Him the centre of your home. You must be ready to give Him priority place, recognizing Him as the foundation for a successful marriage.
The problem with many couples is that they push God aside and yet expect to enjoy divine benefits. They ignore the Word of God, which I call the “manufacturer’s manual”, and expect the product (marriage) to function perfectly. That is impossible.
God is the foundation for success in the home. When the foundation is faulty, no matter how righteous you may be, your home cannot stand. The right place to begin at is at a personal relationship with God, through Jesus Christ.
Not stopping there, you must be a diligent student of the Word, studying and practising it, as it is what holds the key to an exciting and successful marriage.
Marital bliss depends on the place you give to God and His Word in your home. The more of Him you have, the more of peace, joy, happiness and sweetness you enjoy in your Family.
“ . . . Upholding all things by the word of his power…” Hebrews 1:3
All things, including marriage, are upheld by the Word of God. God is power, and He upholds all things, including your home, by His powerful Word. Once God’s Word is given its rightful place in your home, it is built on a sure foundation, which must stand! Receive the grace to operate upon the Word now, in Jesus name!
Satan is the enemy of everything good. Having lost access to goodness, he fell from heaven and therefore he cannot stand anyone else enjoying good things. He is envious of any good thing so he goes about reversing the order of things. This is what makes him wicked.
People attribute the crisis in homes to incompatibility or disagreements, but it is actually Satan who is behind the woes in families. He is determined to cause havoc in homes. He would do anything or pay any price to shatter a home. Quite a number of people, even those in Church, are victims of this satanic onslaught against families.
Satan’s mission of stealing, killing and destroying is first targeted at the home. His primary concern is how to steal the joy, peace and love that exists between couples. His plan is on how to move the man against the woman so that one of them will eventually move out of their home. ln the same way that he used to drive Adam and Eve out of Eden, he is still looking for gullible people to drive away from their homes.
That is why you find a couple that has been calling each other “Sweety” or “Honey” this minute suddenly pouncing on each other as bulls in a fight just a few minutes later. The sweetness in their home turns sour until it becomes so bitter such that there remains no trace of sweetness in it.
When a man and his wife are at variance with each other, their prayers are hindered and they are disconnected from God. They may pray all the time, but there will be no response from heaven. Heaven will be shut, making it impossible for them to enjoy the harvest of whatever seed they may have sown.
The man who opens up his home to malice or discord has blocked his access to God’s blessings. Satan knows this, so he does all he can to ensure that there is rancour and strife between a man and his wife.
Anytime you sense any animosity rising within you against your spouse, know that Satan is seeking an entrance. Therefore, resist him steadfastly in the faith. Tell yourself that since you have no intention of having another home, you will not give Satan a foothold in your family.
The struggles and ultimate failure experienced in many families today is traceable to a lack of agreement in the home. The devil takes special delight in breaking down agreement in the home because he knows that once disagreement has crept in between a couple, their dominion is at stake.
Also note that if a woman doesn’t submit to her husband, she will submit to someone else. The same is true for the man. If he doesn’t love his wife, he will love someone else. It is, therefore, important that both husbands and wives fulfil their covenant obligations to one another. The end product will be success in the family life.
Success in marriage, as in any other endeavour in life, answers to working, not dreaming. A wise man once said that some people dream of success, while others wake up and work hard at it. Success in marriage is not wished for, but worked at. Every achievement in life is worked for, so work for the success of your marriage.
Nothing works itself, just like no problem solves itself. For instance, a student who wants to fail spends all night praying instead of doing his assignments and studying. Prayer does not take the place of actually bending down to do the assignment, it only complements it.
Once you are married, the question of separation should not arise. You must understand that there are no alternatives, no where else to go. By entering into the covenant of marriage, you have burnt the bridge behind you. This simple understanding will help you settle down and make your home an exciting place.
So, the covenant of marriage is for life. May be you are married but are contemplating running away from your home because of the challenges before you. Hold on a while. Remember that Malachi 2:16 says that God hates divorce. Particularly if you are a believer, and your husband or wife is yet to become one. Don’t run away, and don’t give in to pressure.
Enjoy your marriage.
Apostle Langton C Kanyati is the founder and president of Zoe Life Changing Ministries and Grace Unlimited Ministries (Inter-de). Email feedback to [email protected] or
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