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Apostle Langton Kanyati
STATISTICS indicate that the family unit has been breaking down at an alarming rate in the past twenty-five years.
Marriage is God’s strategy to ensure that you never fall away from faith, into error, depression or loneliness and fall victim of any of the devil’s strategies.
The excellent taste of every soup is determined by how it is prepared. It is not enough to have all the required ingredients, you must know how to correctly put them together before you can get the desired taste. The same is true for marriage.
When a home is not founded upon God; the initial joy, excitement and satisfaction is short-lived. It soon wears off. It’s like owning a car. With time, new models come out and what was once new begins to age. The car owner now desires to change the old car and drive the latest sensation. Why? This is because the old one does not excite him anymore.
However, when God is at the centre of a marriage, you find that instead of getting tired of each other, your excitement and satisfaction increases as the years go by, making the relationship go from good to better and from better to best!
Husband and wife will enjoy greater light when they put their heads together and make joint decisions. When you are one, you cannot do anything without the knowledge of your partner.
God honours the physical union of a man and his wife by ensuring that they find pleasure and fulfilment in each other’s bodies. Apart from preventing temptation, husband and wife satisfies each other’s sexual urges. They are provided with legitimate avenues to release their sexual desires.
This is why God frowns at adultery, your partner should be enough to satisfy you. There is nothing another man or woman has that your partner doesn’t have. You just need is to be content with your spouse to enjoy the blessings of marriage.
Husbands must pay the price of selflessness if they want an enviable marriage. Rudeness is not love. Men who speak rudely to their wives to prove their headship are missing it. Derogatory remarks and sarcasm will only push you apart.
In God’s divine order, a wife’s submission to her husband is a necessary requirement for marriage to work. It is also a command from God.
Although submission may appear as foolishness to the world, it is wise to practise it. By this wisdom, many women have won their husbands to the Lord and several have kept their homes from falling apart.
Pride hinders so many women from submitting. Pride is destructive, it must not be haboured. Obedience and respect are also principal requirements in submission.
A man derives his sense of self-worth primarily from the respect, recognition and reputation he gets on his job or through professional accomplishments. He draws emotional satisfaction from achieving success in business, becoming financially independent, developing a highly valuable skill or craft, supervising others, becoming “boss’’, or being appreciated by his fellow workers.
A woman receives her self-esteem at home, by being told that she is appreciated when she prepares a good dinner, dresses beautifully or keeps the house clean and the household in good order.
So the man craves for respect from his wife first and then others, while the woman’s self-worth is in place when she is loved and appreciated, first by her husband, and then others.
God expect couples to help one another socially. For instance, due to your partner’s background, he or she may not know certain social manners such as table manners, matching colours, appropriate dressing codes for various occasions, and so forth. It is your responsibility to educate your spouse on that.
God expects a husband and wife to be financially transparent to one another. They should not keep things away from each other, especially when it concerns money matters.
In some cultures, the men believe that it is a shameful thing for their wives to know how much they earn.
But the truth is, if you hide your earnings from your wife, she will definitely make demands that are beyond your means as she doesn’t know how much you earn.
You have to make up your mind, whether to hold on to culture or to hold on to the Word of God.
Some women also believe that their husbands alone are responsible for providing for the home. They will even quote Scriptures to back up this belief. No wonder when such women earn their own money, they hide it from their husbands and make them pay for everything in the home.
Wives, don’t keep your money for the purpose of only buying the latest clothes, shoes and headgear in town. Some men leave everything to the wife when in actual fact they should be the ones providing for the family.
This often open doors of unfaithfulness. Such doors can only be closed by being open and transparent. What each partner brings home is for the family and you must both agree on what to do with it, otherwise there will not be any progress in your lives.
Couples are expected to help each other in every area of life. They are expected to support to each other. Be honest with one another so that your marriage lasts forever.
Remember that whatever money you have belongs to both of you.
Money has put many homes asunder, don’t let it destroy yours. Enjoy your marriage.
Apostle Langton C Kanyati is the founder and president of Zoe Life Changing Ministries and Grace Unlimited Ministries. Email feedback to [email protected] WhatsApp : 0772 987 844
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