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IT is an open secret that “Mr Perfect” does not exist in real life, they are only found in movies and novels. So with this in mind, one should go for a man whose weaknesses she can tolerate and their life continues.
Never be in a relationship for the wrong reasons. There is one kind of relationship which I have failed to understand. Revenge relationship! It is when you find a woman saying I am in this relationship to revenge for what they did to me.
The man would, at some point, have left her for someone else and then at some point they reunite and have a relationship again. Most times, the woman will tell you that she is no longer in love with him, but wants to revenge. She will be on a mission to hurt two people, the man and that woman whom he had left her for. But is all this drama necessary?
Just do not waste your energy and time. If at one point he chose someone over you then learn to accept life’s fate. While wasting your own time on revenge, you are putting your own life on halt and in the process might even lose the love of your life.
Be a woman of progress and never waste your energy on retrogressive things. Get a better man for yourself and instead of wasting your time on trying to revenge, watch the actions of the man, to see who is the better devil.
A real man behaves so differently from the selfish brat boy types who are everywhere. He is a gentleman, good for more than just the first few months. You can easily notice the difference between someone acting and a realistic one. Importantly, a real man does things so well when he is in a relationship that you just have to love him and his style.
A real man loves and respects his woman for who she is. He might not love her all the time, but he loves her. Not just her body, her possessions and her status, but all of her! He’s aware that as beautiful as her body is now, physical beauty fades. He therefore focuses his love and attention on her true beauty, which is found within her sensibilities and personality. He treats her like a lady, with dignity and respect.
He will not embarrass you by claiming to love another woman more than you and after some time returning claiming to love you as well. He also expects love and respect from his woman as he commits to the relationship fully.
Since it is said all men cheat, the real one will hide his dirty games. He is loyal to his partner and knows that relationships take hard work to keep strong and healthy. His affection to his woman is a full-time commitment.
He nourishes and strengthens the relationship through ongoing, honest communication and team work. When you are with a real man, you know you can trust him. He will stay faithful no matter what and expects you to do the same.
Go for someone who protects you physically and emotionally. Not that a woman can’t protect and defend herself, but he is there for her anyway.
He protects her in different ways, including providing financial security and comforting her and making her feel everything will be okay. He is ready to throw a good punch if necessary to defend her from physical aggressors.
However, he thinks before he acts. He never makes a move until he is sure all details and specifics are in order. His moves are calculated, deliberate and assured. Abuse of any kind is never an issue when you are with him. He is considerate and treats everyone kindly.
A real man fulfils his partner mentally and sexually. He knows most of the time in any relationship is spent doing non-physical, non-sexual things. Besides whispering to her how beautiful she is or how he is going to make hot, passionate love to her when he gets back home in the evening, he also engages her in meaningful discussions about life, plans with her for the future and cracks jokes to lighten and liven moments together.
He displays an awareness, intelligence and sensitivity that makes his actions not only timely, but also genuinely charming.
He will also be the leader. He steps forward and addresses issues in the relationship boldly. He does not wait for the woman to solve problems. If he is not sure how to address an issue, he seeks help or advice.
Some men play it safe and avoid taking the lead because they don’t want to be criticised, but not a real man. A real man says, “I’ll handle it,” and takes the initiative to solve the issue in his way.
He knows real men are decisive and does not leave every other decision to his partner. When making decisions, he seeks to understand her views and is flexible enough to factor in those other views in his decisions.
He does not seek to control people, but rather to improve their situation. If you are reluctant to make decisions, you are likely self-conscious and afraid of making mistakes. He simply acknowledges when he has made a mistake, apologises for it, learns from it and works to make it right. Saying, “I am sorry,” is not a big deal to him.
He knows it doesn’t make him any less of a man to say it. In fact, saying he’s sorry makes him more of a man because it demonstrates he has the confidence, courage and integrity to admit his faults and seek to correct them. Never be taken for granted and do not accept that when he left you for another woman it was your own fault. No, he is the one who messed up, not you!
Always remember that a real man stands up for the relationship. Sometimes friends, family and even total strangers ask inappropriate questions or make inappropriate remarks about your relationship or your partner. In such cases, a real man stands up for himself and defends the legitimacy and integrity of his relationship.
Even when he is among his peers, he speaks up and stands his ground in defence of his relationship. This proves he can express himself in the presence others, protect his woman and act like a grown man.
It is high time women stick around with real men, not those ones after playing games. Never stoop low and get into a relationship to prove a point or as revenge. It also has consequences in your own life!
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