Wedding day nerves and how to beat them!

Okay. This is serious. You are about to get attached to someone for life. This means sharing more than just dinner, bed and breakfast. You are about to sign your individual status away. What if she is not the one? After all the high divorce rate does point out to the fact that many people are making a big mistake when they say they do.

But you have made up your mind. She may not be perfect but you are in this thing heart and soul. So take a deep breath and get ready to say you do.

Passing flutters

It is normal to feel nervous and unsure at the start of any big event in life be it an interview for your dream job, a driving test or an important examination. But as you probably know from past experience, once things start happening, somehow the nervousness fades away.

Identify your list of

chief concerns

Make a list, get some hierarchy and perspective going. Identify your big worries, know the smaller ones and accept them.

Surround yourself with

positive people

Anyone that has an agenda about your wedding should not even be in your vicinity. If there are certain friends or family members that are causing problems, do not engage with them.

Talk about your anxieties

Any doubts about anything will fester so articulate them to your nearest and dearest, don’t get distracted but do tackle what you need to tackle them. Confronting them and taking action will instantly reduce stress levels.

Focus on your breathing

If you start feeling anxious, focus on your breath, and in particular, your diaphragm. And become calm – yoga is a brilliant way to learn body awareness, build stamina to stress and remain flexible, emotionally and physically. Take it up! Spending five minutes each day focusing only on your breath is a fantastic strategy for dealing with worry.

Look ahead with positivity

Start visioning a wonderful day ahead of you, with people who want to share it with you… This is the gift of a wedding.

Allow yourself to be supported

This wedding is not solely your responsibility, you can delegate tasks to chosen trusted friends, you do not have to be the one holding it all together alone.

Think of your posture

If you think you’re getting overwhelmed you will look at the floor more, give and receive eye contact less and your voice will become high pitched. If y0ou haven’t realised yet you are stressed, those around will have done. Acupuncture is a brilliant way to counteract the manifestations of tension and finding a good practitioner will pay dividends.

Allow yourself to be pampered

Let go and relax. Have fun in the run up, lighten up, see the funny side to any conflict.

Rehearse the day in your mind

Mentally walk through what will happen on the day, from beginning to end. If there are parts you are worried about (these are usually the aisle walk, the vows and the speeches) focus on your role in that only – you can’t control what anyone else does or says.

Be positive

Smile, be happy and enjoy your wedding day. It’s going to be amazing! – The Saturday Herald Lifestyle/ weddingideasmag.com