What is a wife?

MOST women are being divorced for being lazy, arrogant and careless. We are being divorced because of laziness and filthiness. Learn to talk to your husband and not talk at your husband. If you do not know it is never too late to learn, teach yourself or ask me whatever you want to know about running a household and marriages, I will let you know.

Let us look at the rate of domestic violence and divorces that are happening in this day and age. Please do not get me wrong, I do not condone divorce or domestic violence but what I am about to say will either educate you or dismiss this as utter rubbish.

I am surprised at the rate of divorce cases flooding the court of laws and the age of people divorcing worries me. It made me wonder. It is now common that a year after walking the aisle the woman then wants out or the husband wants to send the wife back.

And in the discussion I heard men agree that women hardly know what a wife is. So today I will dwell on what a wife is. I understand a wife is a companion who helps her husband make a house, a home and have children if they are to be blessed with any.

Well, the Bible describes a wife’s biggest role as to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands so that the word of God will not be dishonoured.

Of course these days women work but their working should not limit them from doing their wifely and motherly duties and the problem is that not so many women are willing to live as wives according to the Biblical expectations. Are we as women really working on being wife material or later grooming the young women to become wives in the long run? It is worrying but not surprising to note that an 18-year-old can hardly cook, clean or do laundry or any household chores. When we were growing up our parents instilled the culture of working and knowing the basic roles of a woman. I remember how I dreaded the holidays because my mother would send away the maid on a one week leave and I would be left to do the chores; I hated those days. I used to think my mother was unreasonable and evil but today I can proudly say I am the woman I am because of my mother’s teachings.

If properly trained when you get married you will know how to cook and do chores because it will be second nature to you.
There are so many girls who proudly hold their heads high and are proud of the fact that they cannot even make an egg and the next thing they want the glitz of walking down the aisle and tying the knot forgetting that it comes with a price. Half the time if they are well-to-do people they will have maids and the sad story is, these helpers do not only help the madam in the house but they then help them in the bedroom too. They end up overtaking the madam.

Ladies, you need to know how to look after your home, you need to be a real wife, you have to clean your home, take care of that man, cook and make sure he is well taken care of because the way to a man’s heart is not only through opening your legs.

Learn to listen to your husband and attend to your man’s needs. Respect your man and he will respect you too. Talk to him, do not talk at him. Give him his respectable position as the man of the house and please do not talk down to him or belittle him. If he does have a weakness and I am sure everyone does then be his strength and cover it up so that people outside will never know his weakness. If he is poor you made your choice, give him the reason to rush home and not to the pub. Do not scare him away, do not make him drag his feet when coming home.

Marriage is not only about sex, no matter how good you are in bed you need to balance being a wife. I know at times it is hard to do good to someone who does not appreciate but it is important to do good and not tire. You might have a degree, masters, doctorate or run an empire of a business but when you are a wife submit to your husband and do your wifely duties.

Your bedroom should be a highly private zone, so you should not rely on a helper to help you take care of your bedroom. Do it yourself. If you love to get your nails done, spa treatments or the works you still have to manage doing laundry for your husband, show him you are not only a sex object but you are his keeper too. These little things I have shared with you will take your marriage to another level only if you take heed of what I have shared with you. I know I talk too much but even though I am no expert I want you to have blissful marriages and stop flooding the courts of laws with divorce cases. Are the maids to blame for hostile takeovers in homes?

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