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But behind closed doors, something is smouldering between them.
Jessica wants them to have a white wedding, something which she has been saying for many years. Her pleas have, however, fallen on deaf ears.
Sometimes, Michael is on the verge of accepting her proposal but each time he goes out with his buddies, a variety of topics are discussed.
One of the major topics is the issue of a white wedding, whose pros and cons are weighed. When he goes home, Jessica receives the shocking news — Michael has reneged on having a wedding.
Michael’s case is a typical example of men who are not keen to have a wedding with their wives, despite having been together for many years.
Why is it that most men are reluctant to walk down the aisle?
It is a common belief that by tying the knot, one eventually enslaves himself to the wife
“When you say, ‘Till death do us part,’ you are actually surrendering your freedom and there is nothing that you cannot do without your wife knowing it,” said Ronald Banda, a self-confessed “senior bachelor”.
However, Kumbirai Katiyo (44) of Ruwa dismissed this myth after eventually succumbing to his wife’s demands for a white wedding.
Kumbirai had been married to his wife Rachael under customary law for 22 years.
“Wedding is a consummation of what the Bible says, and there is nothing wrong in that. All these years, I have been lost, thinking that I would lose everything that I have to my wife, but that is not the case.
“When you wed, you become one flesh, and you share everything.
“Varume vazhinji havazive kuti kuchata kunorevei. Ukachata hauna kusungwa asi watosunungurwa saka ndinoona Chapter 5:11 yakanaka. (Most men have the wrong perception about wedding. When you are liberated from sin because you respect one partner knowing the vows you made under Chapter 5 Section 11 of the Marriages Act)”.
He was full of praise for his wife whom he said had been patient with him.
Bruce Chiyangwa recently posted on his Facebook account that dating today is as tough as hell.
“Not only is it hard as hell to meet someone, develop a long-lasting and successful relationship, get married, stay married and enjoy a relatively-stress free life with your soul-mate.
“It is hard as hell to remain positive about your chances of finding all of that when you’re single.”
While some people can live the single life happy-as-hell and be glad to be free, there are many people who are tired of the inherent frowziness of the dating scene.
“So we all date, optimistically hoping that one day we will encounter the true love of our life and settle down, yet realistically finding ourselves continually giving our all into relationships that eventually break down and leave us heartbroken, emotionally drained and pessimistic.
“The problem is, if you don’t learn how to identify and overcome your pessimism, it might become the real reason you never find someone good,” explained Chiyangwa.
Online Reporter