Sundaymail Editor
Life Issues with FGK
Life is never easy for most women after their husbands die.
Most of them are abused and easily fall into depression or develop anger issues.
It requires mental stamina for one to overcome challenges that come with losing a soulmate.
In instances where the husband was the sole breadwinner, the situation becomes complicated.
Some will be forced to relocate to rural areas while others transfer kids from flashy schools to affordable ones.
In worst circumstances, some women are accused of being responsible for their husband’s death.
This naturally affects their self-esteem.
It is never good to feel as an outcast.
Individuals that treat widows as beggars or potential husband snatchers do not make life any easy for them.
Granted, modern-day society is now more supportive of widows than before, but more still needs to be done.
A woman who loses a husband should not be forced into another marriage.
She must only do so by choice.
Similarly, society should continue respecting widows the very same way they did when their husbands were still alive.
The death of a spouse should never invite any form of abuse, be it from friends, relatives or neighbours.
Going forward, we also have relatives that are in the habit of disinheriting the bereaved, especially when the marriage was an unregistered customary type of marriage.
Be warned, the law is against this.
Before being selfish, think about the family left behind by the departed, and the hard work the other spouse would have put in helping amass the wealth.
Those affected should always seek professional help.
We have counsellors, courts and the police that can bring sanity in times of crisis.
Support groups like Musasa Project easily come to mind.
Likewise, churches also play a pivotal role in assisting the broken-hearted.
Those that suffer in silence often end up committing suicide or developing serious health complications, talk of high blood pressure and depression.
Let us remember to be emotionally intelligent and considerate when dealing with a person who has lost a partner.
Quote of the week: Society should continue respecting widows the very same way they did when their husbands were still alive
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Tinaye Agere
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