adminHELLO there readers, how are you all. Is it just me or has summer suddenly come upon us over night. One day we were freezing waiting for the snow kikiki Jokes . . . then the next we are back to dressing half naked? This week, women have answered men and this is what some have said: Dear Marriage Dr, sometimes guys just do things to be stubborn, we believe. Honestly some of the things they brought up in the last two weeks are just not things we must argue about, but we end up arguing because they just refuse to do the right thing. Some are just unnecessary to fight over like some men rightfully said, but it becomes an issue because they won’t listen.
Fixing things – Is not one of the reasons so that we have someone by our side that can now become to me or him what 10 other people were? Is it not that now I am married, I have a lover; a friend; a provider; a protector; a confidant; a support and of cause a handy man. Why would I pick up the phone and call another man to fix my bulb when I have a man at home.
Emptying the bin – Yooooo which man cannot empty the bin? Did these men grow up with their mothers? Because every woman we know will have at some stage given the “emptying of the bin to her son”. Dude, we women spend every day cleaning and cooking for you, the least you can do is throw out the trash – or are you afraid you might fall in the bin? As for me Dr, I do not have boys, I have girls only, so maybe I can get my husband to give me money so that I can hire the next door husband to take out my trash when he is doing his!
Boys timeout – No woman wants to compete with her husband’s friends, that is all we are saying. I once asked my man if he was having an affair with his best friend because seriously Marriage Dr every time this man calls my husband takes the call. Once we were enjoying quality time and my man answered the call. But I want him to make it clear to all his boys that I am a priority and he needs to show me that I am a priority. Of course, I might call when the game is at its peak – sorry how am I supposed to know? Trust is earned. Yes you might be okay, but your buddies are cheats, drunks and immoral – what do you expect me to trust when you go out with them?
Laundry Basket – You know what Marriage Dr, the man who claimed $1 a pair of socks was nothing compared to the hundreds and thousands he brings home has lost the plot all together. And to his wife, we say every time he leaves a sock on the floor, it is only $1, so throw it out the damn window and see how important it is then!
Washing underwear – Nhai Baba? Did your mother wash your underwear for you? And if she did, you are spoilt. The only thing we ask you to wash is your underwear, is that so hard? How can any husband get so upset with his wife for not washing his underwear? And how can any man insists the maid wash his underwear? Dr if a man says the only thing left for the maid to do is sleep with him, then I would say to the useless man – go ahead! Seriously if a man uses a lack of washing underwear by his wife as an excuse to sleep with the house help, then it tells me that he has it on his mind anyway, and he is just finding excuses.
Squeezing the Toothpaste – Guys this is important to us. It is as important as leaving the toilet seat down, so please just squeeze the toothpaste from the bottom up. We do not want to fight about this.
Addictions – We are so glad some husbands understand the reasons we do not appreciate men who over smoke and drink, it affects all of us. So now can other well behaved husbands tell us as wives, how we are supposed to deal with those problematic husbands? Yes when we met these men they were into alcohol and drugs. But to us as the girlfriend, it was just a youthful thing we thought they were doing. This is not even something we need to discuss, it is not right! And yes we would love it if there are men out there willing to beat our husbands up for beating us; but the problem is when he returns home, he might beat me up again, this time till death.
Well, there we go men, the women are answering, tune in to next week for the other answers. Until then God bless!
To be continued next week . . .
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