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Brian Matsaira
I have read different books and listened to different people trying to give their version of the ideal woman that all men want.
The truth is men do not love the same woman.
What I find attractive is not what my friend finds attractive.
The woman I dismiss is the exact woman that the other man will pick.
This is why many women should stop the idea of trying to attract every man out there.
No woman can attract every man, because men are attracted to women in different ways.
I am seeing several women bleaching, because they think all men like ‘yellow-bones’, but there are probably billions of men who will never date a woman simply because she has a light complexion.
Their preference would be for dark-skinned women.
There are so many pharmaceutical companies that would want to define beauty to us in a certain way, because they want to sell certain products to make money.
These companies go to the extremes of making adverts with models that look like the version they are defining as beautiful.
As we watch these adverts we are made to believe that only slim light-skinned women are beautiful.
But how many men out there are not attracted to slim women?
How many men out there only go after thick-bodied, huge-hipped women?
When it comes to physical appearance men will never reach the same conclusion.
Every man has his type. Some love short women, some love tall women. It is never a one-answer conclusion.
However, almost all men can reach the same conclusion when it comes to the question of morals.
All men would want to have an honest and loyal woman.
Every man would want a woman who respects him.
Respect is something that every man cannot live without.
Many men are prepared to change women in their numbers, until they find a woman who respects them and who is loyal to them.
Men who are not celebrated or honoured in their homes usually look for this honour somewhere else.
Many men would want to be treated like kings by their wives.
They want to be valued, even if they have no material possessions.
This is the reason why many men, when they want to marry, they do not limit their decision to how a woman looks, but they look at her heart and how she treats them.
If beauty was solely important, only beautiful women would be married.
Women with high morals tend to be married easily. Women with beauty that is not backed by good morals tend to attract so many men at the same rate that they would lose them.
It is not only about attracting, but also about maintaining the relationship once it exists.
Many women are so concerned about attracting men, yet they forget that after attracting them they need to know how to maintain a relationship.
Morals come into play after attracting.
Social media focuses so much on how to attract and on what people should look like.
It makes people spend their time trying to look a certain way, but it forgets to teach them about the inner look, which is often the most important part of a woman that determines whether a man will marry her or not.
Some women can go to the gym, and they can be called “sexy” or “hot”, but if they do not have the right morals men will always prefer the woman with high moral standing.
*Brian Matsaira is a love and relationships coach. He can be contacted on 0773383687. Or email: [email protected]
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