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MERRY Christmas
As 2019 curtain comes down, no matter what happened to you during the year, end it on a high note.
It is unfortunate that some people’s happiness is determined by their marital status. Many times I have heard debates on who is the happiest between a single and married woman.
That is just nonsense, everyone deserves to be happy and that’s a choice.
Remember that happiness is not something ready-made, it comes from your own actions.
Happiness is a choice and women should not be misled into believing that you can only be happy when everything in your life is looking good, cue the relationship, ring, job, house, wardrobe, vacations, beauty products, money, car, children and maybe a partner. How long will it take one to get the listed things to achieve happiness?
Enough is enough, just be happy with what you have. Some women who got carried away after hearing that single women were the happiest, divorced but still they couldn’t find it. The singles also got married, but still they were not happy. These things alone don’t create lasting happiness, so happiness becomes this elusive thing that one desires but can’t find.
The truth is that happiness is not circumstantial.
And this is really good news. It means you don’t have to wait for everything to be perfect, nor do you have to control anything in order to feel a certain way. Becoming aware of this truth is a total game-changer, because it means you know happiness is a choice.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that you will be happy as soon as everything in your life goes as expected and that the solution to happiness is to keep working harder to control these external situations in order to make them “right.” But even when you make things happen you realise these outward things don’t make you happy after all.
In reality, self-love is the baseline of happiness. When you live from a pure space of self-love, you are able to achieve sustainable happiness, because your internal feelings of abundance will reflect back in the form of beautiful relationships, purpose-driven work and financial freedom.
In short, self-love puts you on the fast track to healing. Your work is to clear out fearful perceptions and shift them back to a loving perspective on life, which reveals perfection and wholeness. You don’t need to be fixed and nothing is wrong with you, let go of limiting beliefs and experience happiness.
If you really want to be happy spend less time listening to other people’s opinions or the loud, critical voice inside your own mind. One of the best practices for cultivating the ability to hear your inner guiding system is meditation.
Despite what you may have been taught, happiness is as simple as just choosing to be happy. When you truly realise this — that happiness is a choice — you instantly empower yourself in any situation, whether it’s a relationship, job, or pattern of thinking that’s been creating judgments, worry, doubt, fear, or confusion. The moment you choose to perceive things differently by choosing a loving perception of yourself, others will start to see you in a different way and respect you.
This is a lifelong practice, because when you are not monitoring your thoughts, they have a tendency of veering back into fear and worry.
One of the simplest and most profound ways you can align with loving perceptions each day is to practice setting an intention every morning when you wake up. This intention can be very simple: Just say to yourself, I choose happiness — and feel it!
When you tap into this relaxed energy, you allow that which you desire to flow in a miraculous way. The job, relationship, or whatever you are envisioning and desiring for your life is all on its way — and when you surrender your plans for the timeline and the form in which you think it should arrive, you allow an even bigger and better outcome to take place.
By connecting with yourself, setting intentions to be happy, and surrendering to the natural flow of life, you can breathe a sigh of relief, trusting and knowing that everything is unfolding in perfect, divine timing — and the only work you need to do is to get out of your own way and let life happen. Happiness is your birthright!
Let no tension crash your happiness. It’s all about give and take. If you use up a lot of time, energy and effort on your tasks, don’t forget to refuel yourself. Detach yourself from everything and bask in your carefree “me time.” Revitalise.
Why should you worry about what others think of you, do you have more confidence in their opinions than you do your own?
Some people will put all kinds of unpleasant tags on you. Let them. You need to ask yourself whether you agree with what they’ve said. I’d bet you don’t. You don’t need their approval or admiration. Only allow bright and beautiful things in your life.
You work hard and you strive to be the very best version of yourself all the time. But, remember to be generous in pampering yourself. Spend time or money to enjoy something you like. Every little pleasure and thing you do to care for yourself can make your soul delightful.
Don’t put your happiness into other people’s hands. You can’t always wait for him to give you flowers, gifts and most importantly . . . love. Learn to be with yourself.
Yes, you, alone. Be respectful to yourself. Listen to your heart and wishes and fulfil them yourself. You don’t rely solely on others; you give yourself joy.
The truth is, no one is perfect. Love the way you are. And remember, you don’t need to be pretty to be happy; you need to be happy to be pretty.
Be happy and glow. Life is too short to be trying to please other people, 2020 is all about you and achieving your dreams.
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