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HELLO there everyone, I hope you had a grand week, I certainly did. So this week, I am doing something a little different. Every week I get quite a bit of feedback from readers and I appreciate it all. This week I have decided to publish two write ups from different readers, one male one female on two different subjects. Enjoy!
Hello the Marriage Doctor.
Thanks for your wonderful column. My feedback on “WHY WOMEN CHEAT?” Whatever a deceiver does either in public or secrecy, he/she shall reap the consequences of that action as Apostle Paul received it by revelation in Galatians 6v7 and Colossians 3v25. We will always harvest whatever we sow in our lives. This is a principle of life. Keep it up advising your readers. Stay blessed
Be still and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10 – It is difficult to be still when everything is moving around you. It is difficult to be still when mountains of debt stare you in the face – or when you are surrounded on every side with trouble. Yet, it is precisely, in those circumstances that God tells us not to panic. Learn to be still. No matter what faces you, ‘be still’. No matter what you hear, ‘be still’. No matter the size of the enemy, ‘be still’. In the lion’s den, ‘be still’. In the valley of the shadow of death, ‘be still’. You will not be destroyed. You will not go under. You will not be buried. Stand still. Stand strong. STAND!
Thank you again for your article on your column dated April 30, 2015. Truly your advice is excellent and educative. All people who cheat their spouses just because themselves were once cheated are sowing a seed they shall reap of its fruit (Colossians 3v23 and Galatians 6v7). Your article is truly an eye-opener. In fact, in life we do not correct a bad thing with another bad solution (Romans12v21). The Lord invites us to come to Him with all our burdens. (Matthew11v28). So why can’t the cheated present the cheaters to their Manufacturer- the Creator-Almighty God who is able to grant us victory through His Son Jesus Christ as promised in Romans8v37; 1Corinthians15v57 and 2Corinthians2v14. The cheated should stand firm in their faith and see how God fights for them in accordance with Exodus14v14; Deuteronomy 3v22
Please keep on writing on the truth of nature’ principles. Those who have ears to hear, let them hear, and they shall know the truth and be set free. (John8v 32). Cheaters reap – Colossians3v23, whilst faithful doers reap -Ephesians6v8.
Be blessed. (from Mr A Mhlanga) your regular follower of your column
Doctor’s Reply
Thank you so much Mr Mhlanga, a lot of scripture there for us to dwell on. I too believe if you have a strong religion behind and guiding your marriage, many of these issues can be sorted out or avoided. Keep on reading and giving us feedback, it people like you that keep this column going.
From an unmarried mature lady
1. Just because I am single and do not have kids doesn’t mean I have money to loan you or give you to buy “luxuries” that you think I keep “wasting” my money on
2. My house is not a shop. Stop coming to look for new shoes, clothes, groceries from my wardrobe or pantry. I am also on a budget.
3. Yes, I keep on wasting money on furniture and going to school . . . please note that I am not on a bus stop waiting for a man to come sweep me off my feet and marry me so that life can start. My life started way back and it’s on course.
4. Stop giving me advice on how to treat a man. I am not single because I can’t keep a man . . . I am single because I choose to be.
5.I am tired of hearing your complaints on how marriage is like a jail . . . and you keep on asking me when I am going to get married to start enjoying life; I thought you just said marriage is like a jail. Do people have fun in jail
6. My TV is too big, my wardrobe is too full, I have too many shoes, my car is too big, stop using white bed linen, you wake up too late, you are going out too much . . . dude, I can make my own decisions. This life is mine, not yours.
7. Yes, I get lonely at times, so what?
8. Yes, I don’t cook everyday and I am eating too much take away . . . so what?
9. Do not worry, I am a Christian and I do not date married men. Your man is safe
10. If I wanted a baby I would have had one ages ago . . . stop telling me that my biological clock is ticking . . . R U GOD?
Yours truly
Your single relative/friend
Doctor’s Reply
Wow my dear, thank you for sending this letter. I have so many single mature people who contribute to this column expressing similar sentiments.
You were bold in writing this to us, maybe next time you will be bolder in allowing us to put your name on the article. Some married couples actually feel more single than their single friends believe me.
So to the married females out there, take a leaf out of your husband’s book… men do not turn their backs on their single friends and they do not judge them as being lesser human beings. After all just like you, in time your single friends will find someone to love them and they too will be called Amai ningi ningi…or like the reader above said, not every woman wants to get married early. The world is changing and so are the dynamics of male and female roles etc. Be a good married friend, so that the singles feel inspired to join you.
Well, there you have it folks, two readers who are passionate about life and what they believe. Until next week God bless!
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